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Omg he added me on fb!

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by rockgodgx, Sep 9, 2012.

  1. rockgodgx

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    the guy i liked found me on fb, i have a diff name in fb... it's like i din't even know we have 3 friends in common when i saw the friend request i was like holy mother of god and i started deleting the stuff except one status that is saying i'm embarrassed that he is the leader of the fame club which i've always wanted to join in, and he commented on it and he keeps liking left and right pictures and statuses oh gawd!!! i thought it was over but then again here comes chapter 2
     
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    That sounds really exciting! But it would probably be better if you kept posting in the same thread so those of us who aren't familiar with your situation can read up on it. It's a bit of a bother to have to find your threads and read up on them.

    There's no need to make a new post for every new event!

    *Goes to read up on threads*
     
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    He likes you! No doubt about it!
     
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    I told you he likes you. Now talk to him!!!!!!!!
     
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    we are sorta taking... i feel so awkward though that i missed that status saying "It's bad enuf i see you in art class, and you're the fucking leader of fame club which i wanted to join gawd this is so embarassing" and he totally saw it and he commented this ">,>" face oh gawd it's embarassing

    i think his still straight though is he O.O??
     
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    I think he likes you. At the very least I think you should come out to him.
     
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    He's the leader of the fame club?

    Are you still not sure he's gay?

    Did you look at his "interested in" thing on FB yet?

    Ask him to hang out with you.

    What are you embarrassed about? It makes no sense. Wanting to join a club he runs is not something to be embarrassed about.

    Also: Join the Fame club!
     
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    Dude, join the club, and start hanging out with him! :slight_smile:

    While you hang out with him, and if you are not out to him, why not just tell him about yourself, and take it from there?

    Take a chance. No matter how this turns out, it might be the best thing you have ever done!
     
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    well obv... im out cos im metro sexual and im bluntly hey world im gay outfit lol..... and secondly yes weve been talking

    no still haven't figured it out yet cos i know he's straight maybe?? cos of the statement " how come gay men hits on me more than women" he told me when i told him i was gay which he didn't know.

    yes he added me in fb

    i'm not embarassed bout that he's the leader of the fame connection club it's just that i've always wanted to join that club but when i found out he was the leader i felt so embarassed that i might do something foolish around him while were closer. i can barely even breathe when he's in art class makes me wonder if were in the same club

    well i'm thinking he might hang out with me cos i've asked him if he want's to go to a karaoke party cos he's a singer too so. cos he asked me where i got to karaoke to

    fame club> is a club for artists, musicians, graphic designers, esigners, drama students

    the weird part that bugs me how did he found my fb.... i have diff name in fb so people can't find me. secondly i'm embarassed about my status cos he commented on it with a ">,>" which i dont know what it means.

    plus i felt safe when he wasnt my friend in fb cos i can express my feelings for him on my wall but when he be friended me i deleted every status i've had bout me cos i found out his snooping around my fb?? and he likes and comments left and right which is a tadd odd??

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    i look at his interests it's barely has anything on it lol
     
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    Not his interests. His "interested in" where it will say "men" or "women" or "men and women."

    What was your status that got the face?
     
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    the '"im embarassed bout joining in fame club cos his the president, and i already see him art class" status lol eek

    nada, it doesent say if hes interested in men or women he just comes up to me as straight
     
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    Facebook "Interested in:" works like this:

    Interested in: Women —> Most likely straight (even though I had it like this for years)
    Interested in: Men —> Gay
    Interested in: Men & Women —> Bisexual

    Or if you can't see an "Interested in:", it's most likely that they're gay or bi but are not comfortable putting that on Facebook.

    So when you say he is coming up as straight, does it say "Interested in: Women" or can you not see this section of his profile because it's hidden?
     
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    I'm getting the impression that it's not listed. So my bet would be "probably not straight--but still in the closet."

    How well has he filled out the rest of his profile?

    How did you respond when he asked you about why gay guys hit on him more than women?
     
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    well i was like you know when gay guys attract each other is the eye contact thing so u gotta pay attention that's my reaction

    he's so cute he even said.."sure no problem Ill see you tomorrow!!! or today who knows :x" on my pm's when i invited him to karaoke night lol

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    and he's profile not much stuff is in there only is he's like male single... blah blkah... he likes punk rock and stuff like that not much of a fb profile if u know what i mean??
     
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    Hmm. It could be an oversight, but since the fact that he is "single" is filled out it's kind of odd.

    You invited him to Kareoke? That's great!
     
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    i told u guys the boy strikes me as odd even my bff who's also gay tells me to go with it.... until he cracks?? although funny thing with my wishful thinking the universe gives me fast responds lol

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    and when me and my friend thought it was over by labeling him as straight here comes chapter 2
     
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    do u think he knows by now that i'm sorta kinda hitting on him?? cus uh.... he commented on that status... and because of this message he wrote he mightve know by now??

    "sure no problem =) Ill see you tomorrow!!! or today who knows :x"

    which i tried harder to hide... but he randomly added me on facebook which made me panic! and start deleting stuff on my wall that's pertaining to him.
     
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    What would happen if he knew you liked him? Would that be terrible? (It might not, you know.)

    But I have no idea if he knows, or suspects.
     
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    I may be late to the party, but he clearly wants to get to know you. Go for it!