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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by beckyg, Jan 29, 2008.

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  1. beckyg

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    Last night I lost a friend. I met Sue in a small yahoo group with people who believe in reincarnation, soulmates, and who have a common bond. We all love Garth Brooks. We've been corresponding for probably about 10 years now. Sue was a very loving person who never said a bad thing about anybody. She was always very supportive if I was hurting and encouraged me in my work with PFLAG and gay rights. She was a wonderful person! She had been battling cancer for a couple years now. She'd get better for awhile only to have the cancer return. Whoever says you can't love an internet friend, is very much mistaken because I loved Sue! The last e-mail that I sent to her said just that! Sue was the editor of a country music magazine in England called Southern Country. She leaves her husband who loves her very much and her two sons. One of them is in a heavy metal band called Vallenbrosa (www.vallenbrosa.com) which is becoming more successful all the time. She was always very proud of her family. She will be missed so much! :tears:
     
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    10 years!! Wow, that's a long time!
    I agree, you can definitely love an internet friend. I'm so sorry for your loss.. (*hug*)
     
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    awww, becky, i'm sorry (*hug*). well you can take comfort in the fact that she's not gone, but just moved on? :slight_smile: at least it's better to love and lose than never love (sorry too tired for more than the old cliches today lol) (*hug*)
     
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    Aww I'm so sorry...yes it's possible to love an internet friend..look at me and Regina..meeting up soon.
     
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    (*hug*) I'm sorry to hear this, Becky. The only comfort I can give is that she certainly impacted a lot of lives in her time and must have been a wonderful friend and confidant. I'm sure you'll meet in the next life!
     
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    I hope so Astaroth! :slight_smile:
     
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    Becky, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. It sounds like she was a wonderful person who touched a lot of lives.
     
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    I'm sorry to hear that. She sounds like a lovely person and she will be sadly missed. I can only hope I keep in touch with my internet friends as long as you did.

    *checks out Vallenbrosa as they sound like my kinda music*
     
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    Somehow I think some of the people on this list will be in touch for a very long time. :slight_smile:
     
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    Becky I am so very sorry for your loss! I do believe you can love an internet friend and I'm sure she loved you as much as you loved her. I can only imagine how much your love and support during her battle with cancer meant to her. Cancer is a very sore subject for me right now and although my mom obviously isn't an internet friend of mine, I can only hope I'm as big a support to her as you were to your friend. Her family and friends (yourself included) are in my thoughts.

    By the way I deeply care about all of my EC friends I honestly don't know where I would be without all of you so I do think that internet friends can often be some of the bestest (yes I know thats not a word) friends you will ever have.
     
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    i'm so sorry, becky :frowning2:
     
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    Becky - I'm so sorry to hear your news.....I'm thinking of you...
     
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    Becky, sorry for your loss. Although the internet is filled with people who are not so nice(not here, other forums) I have met a lot of wonderful people one here and other forums that will always have a place in my heart.

    Sorry for your loss
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    To have such a friendship is a wonderful gift. One that you'll always have.:eusa_pray
     
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    Im sorry becky. 10years!WOW! hey, a few months on this website and i already love some of my internet friends....Cooper and Tezzy bear!
     
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    Wow, sorry about your loss.

    And I agree, you can DEFINITELY love an internet friend. My therapist is usually right on 2.most thing, but there's three things I disagree with:

    1. that internet friendships are superficial
    2.That we have to accept homophobia because it's as much of a belief as religion (something like that)
    3. and that looking at furry art is harmful to yourself because it's not real.

    Wow, I strayed totally off topic here.
     
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    Vallenbrosa sure look good, hope they make it big in the metal scene and I see them down the road in a few years.

    Thats a sad story Becky. :frowning2: Hope ur feeling better.
     
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    I am very sorry Becky. I know how real internet friends can become. I was friends with someone I met on officer.com and was devastated when I learned he had a heart attack.
     
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    Thanks guys! You all made my day a little brighter. :slight_smile:
     
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    I'm sorry Becky...:icon_sad:

    I'm surprised how many people I know on the net now that I would consider "friends". It is still possible to really connect with people/personalities you don't meet face to face.

    It is also a great (& easy) way to keep in people you do know but are distant from. What did we ever do before YIM/MSN, email, internet, etc?

    I remember when I was young and travelling ('70's - yes...I've made no secret of the fact that I'm an old fart :wink:) - no such thing then - and international phone calls were VERY expensive and unreliable from developing countries. My poor mother used to wait for a card/letter from me - mainly from out of the way third world countries. I can just imagine her, when she got one, thinking "Ah...he's OK :slight_smile:" - then 5 minutes later realising it had been posted 2 weeks prior and getting worried all over again.:eek:
     
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