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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by TheUndiscovered, Sep 24, 2012.

  1. TheUndiscovered

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    I just got over having questioning my sexuality and felt a little insecure about it again so I looked at pictures of guys and girls. It was like usual when I liked the guys and not the girls but randomly I felt a strong arousal when looking at the female pictures so now I'm back in the cycle of questioning. I've never looked at a girl or thought about one sexuality and I wasn't even thinking about those girls sexually. Does this mean I'm bi or is this just apart of being a teenager? Please help, I can't stand going through this questioning again. :frowning2:
     
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    Well, it doesn't sound like you're very attracted to females. If you are masturbating without porn and just use your mind, what gender do you typically fantasize about? What is more appealing to you, a loving relationship with a guy or a girl? Who do you typically check out day-to-day?
     
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    Just because your gay doesn't mean your 100% try looking a the kinsey scale that really helped me:slight_smile: you could be 75 15 or something:slight_smile: you don't have to put a label on it! But to me it sounds like your closer to gay not bi
     
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    I can't see myself in a relationship with a girl, something seems missing to me. Even though I've never even be in a relationship I don't think I'd like to be with a girl..I realize how ridiculously obvious this sounds but this is causing me a lot of stress even though to others it's obvious I'm gay for some reason I keep questioning..

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    What's a kinsey scale?
     
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    It's a scale the puts sexuality on a spectrum from 0(completely heterosexual) to 6(completely homosexual). Don't look too much into it though. It just helps some people gauge their attractions. Kinsey scale - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
     
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    Most of my problem is that I know I'm gay but I keep getting anxiety about possibly being Bi. I don't know why..Any suggestions as to how I can stop this?
     
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    Why is it really important to know what label fits you? You're attracted to whoever you're attracted to. You didn't answer before, but do you ever check girls out or fantasize about them? For the most part I'd say you probably aren't bi since you don't even want a relationship with a female. You can still be gay and find females to be good looking, but it doesn't mean you "like" them.
     
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    I don't fantasize about girls. I did only to see if I liked it and I felt no connection. I know how dumb this is, lol. It's very frustrating for me because everything suggests I'm gay yet I can't get rid of reoccurring anxiety of possibly liking girls. I have already accepted being gay and don't want to have to re-come out to the few I've already come out to because I don't think they'd take me seriously if I ended up being bi.
     
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    I'm actually going through something similar as well.

    It is weird because I know I am gay and I know I have always considered myself gay. It's like the past couple months I have been in denial. I've started to look at women when I'm out and about. I'm constantly trying to see if I am attracted to them at all. The honest truth is, I never fantasize about women and if I try I am completely grossed out.

    I understand, though, if it were only that easy because I am still constantly questioning if I am gay or possibly bisexual. Maybe in my mind I wish I was bisexual because it would make my life a whole lot easier.

    Didn't really help your situation, but at least we know we're not alone! :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I feel the same way exactly. It helps a lot actually, I don't feel so isolated. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Is there something that makes you not content with just being attracted to guys?
     
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    No. I've fully accepted it, I don't mind being gay. It makes me unique and more open minded. Would it make since to say I'm affraid of becoming less gay?
     
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    Yes, that does make sense to me. Although I'm starting to get confused myself with your situation since everything pretty much points to you being gay and solely attracted to guys, lol. :shrug: I don't really see women fitting in there anywhere..
     
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    I know. :frowning2: I don't like girls but I feel like I might start liking them so I get anxiety and feel like I keep having to prove to myself I simply don't feel that way. I dunno. So simple yet so complex. :\
     
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    What makes you feel like you might start liking them?
     
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    Wow, you are sounding more like me by every post. Haha!

    I have the same thoughts as well. Like I said, I know I am gay, but there is always that doubt. I am almost scared that I might be attracted to girls because I just do not know how to be... straight? I find it ridiculous that I worry about this because I can still be "gay"!

    Maybe I have accepted that I am gay, but my subconscious has yet to do so. Deep down inside I really just wish I could love a woman and live, per se, a normal lifestyle.
     
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    I hope this forum will help us both with our silly situation. :grin:
     
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    What's the fun in being normal? Sure us gays have more road blocks than the average heterosexual, but I think it just makes life more interesting. Life will be so good once you find a sweet and loving guy to share it with. :wink:
     
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    Exactly. ;D