straight girl with a Gay bf....

Wait. hes has a gf??!!

I think your wrong to even have a secret relationship with him, and getting more guys into it :lol:

 

Ummm... no if he knows he's gay you need to get out of the relationship... o.o... and be just friends. Your his cover right now and this won't end pretty...

 

oh dear... you need to get out

 

I'm confused, before I SWEAR your Gender said male, and your age is 27.. but you said hes 27.. anyway...

You just have to accept if he comes out as gay I suppose

 

Umm so you know he's gay heknows he's gay and your still with him and helping him find guys to cheat on you with? You need to get out... that in no way seems healthy

 

I guess.. your an exception :lol:

But like you said he hasn't met a guy yet so.. The time will come, you just have to let him go.

P.s if he wants to find a guy, tell him to do it himself! :lol:, you must be a great friend though to do that for him knowing the fact he might end up with a guy.

 

While I do believe that love conquers ALL, I also believe that cheating is not right, and you're helping him cheat on you! You need to get out of this- it would be best for both of you if you did. You can always be JUST friends. And, you can have amazing sex with some one else if that is a concern.

 

I would end it and be a good friend and support him 100% o.o but its your life o: do as you please but this situation could get ugly x.x

 

so you started dating him knowing he was gay? >.< I'm confused why would you do that?

 

So... are you sure its not friend love? o.o I'm not good at this situation >.< someone else help advice pleaseee?? I've never been in this situation nor have ever heard of it.

 

What you need to ask him/he needs to answer for himself with regards to the "if I never met you, I'd be in a gay relationship now" is whether or not that's because he truly does love you to make it worth not searching for someone else, or he feels as though he can't leave you for fear of hurting you or something. Those are two very, very different motives, and answer a lot of what you should be doing in this situation.

If he's in it because he legitimately wants a relationship with you, then stick it out if you want. But if your views on monogamy are like those of most other people, you probably shouldn't be looking to hook him up with other guys. If he wants to hook up with a guy, he'll go do it. If he's in a relationship with you, he's in a relationship with you. Just because he's gay doesn't give him an exception to the general rule of "you don't cheat on your partner".

If he's sticking it out because he fears leaving you, then you need to collectively end it. It won't be healthy for either of you and I'm sure if some of the older members were online right now, they'd be preaching the horrors of trying to live a "straight" relationship when that's not what you want. Point is, just don't do it. I can nearly guarantee it won't work out, and if it does, it's going to be incredibly difficult.

Now, what you need to remind yourself is that if he wants to leave the relationship for anyone else (gay or otherwise), he will. And dragging it out longer than it has to is not going to be good for either of you. "Convincing" him to stay by doing things like allowing him extra affairs with other guys is not going to help anything. If you're feeling like you're trying to hang onto something that isn't there, then maybe that's something you need to look deep within yourself about rather than trying to piece together a relationship that won't work.

Love does crazy things to people. Try as hard as you can and think rationally about this; don't make it more painful than it needs to be for either of you.

P.S. How do you know he's gay? Maybe I missed that part, but I don't recall reading it.

 

Oh, I guess I should add too: honesty is the best policy in this situation, as in all relationships. You and him aren't doing either of you any favours by being dishonest about things now. It'll hurt now, but it'll hurt less now than it will in 20 years if your world were to come crumbling down around you. So be open, communicate frequently, and make sure the other person knows what you're thinking.

 

You're a very nice and supportive partner. However as others have said, it would be best to end the relationship between you two if you both believe that he is actually gay. I think he probably has more of a "deep friend love" for you than a romantic love, although that is just a guess. It's also not right for you to have to do the "work" for him. That's unfair even though you agree to it. I think what he probably needs most is a supportive friend right now.