Yes it is another crush thread... by me no less

Rightio, there are two ways you can really go about this. I'm not going to lie, but the chances are against you for getting your desired result. I strongly disagree with you saying anything to him, especially with the current relationship you both have (or lack of in this case). It is not something you can just rush into and hope he falls for you, but it's something that can have very srious consequences. I know you probably know this already, but i would kick myself if i left it out.

Here are two things you can do:

1) You can form a friendship with him. There are numerous ways you can get talking to him, but you will probably know what way is better for him than us. I think if you get to know him then the feelings may ease a bit as there is at least some connection between you. I know the last person i liked, the feelings kind of settled when we were friends because it was no longer a challenge to get him to notice me, and i came to accept that he had a girlfriend and as a friend i sohuld not get in the way of that. If you do become friends with him then this connection you both will (hopefully) have should allow you to be more open with each other and remove the frustration and adventure of trying to get him to notice you.
Although, many people will disagree with what i just said, and they are right to do so. I am not saying that becoming close friends will remove them feelings. I have heard of a gazillion cases of people who have fell for a particular person even more after becoming closer. The only advantage to this is you get to understand how well you think they will take the news of you telling them your feelings. This is of course a massive gamble, as you can come out of it alot worse than originally, but you will have a friendship with that person. Depending on what type of person you are, you may enjoy that more than when he never noticed you. Others would probably prefer to stay invisible to their crush.

2) Keep things as they are now. As above, i listed why people may prefer staying invisible. If you are the type of person who thinks that friendship would cause you to get stronger feelings then i suggest you stick to this. Although being ignored is shitty and makes you feel bad, it does not give you that feeling of being trapped. The good thing about not being friends with them is that you can avoid them and never see them again. If you are friends with them then it does give you the feeling of being trapped, and that itself will make your emotions very irrational. Of course if you feel a friendship would help you, go for it.

We have to learn by our mistakes anyway, and both choices are a gamble. You just need to decide which one you think would end better for you. If you think you would control your emotions better if you were friends with him then choose option 1. If you feel that you aren't ready to be friends with him, or have any doubt about how your emotions will react then choose option 2. Both choices will have a big impact on your emotions, but the wrong choice could not only affect your life, but could also go on to affect theirs.

 

Hmmm, feelings can become stronger. Even if you think they can't.

You need to remember that forming a friendship makes you closer to them. This can make your feelings grow because you are one step closer to being with him (so to speak). Some people are happy with that and their feelings will settle down because they are no longer invisible, whereas others find themselves as an emotional wreck. The most common problem i have found with being close is that you can match parts of their personality which you claim make you an ideal couple. This not only gives you an illusion you belong together, but can also put you into a state of depression knowing the person you are 100% sure is your life partner will never like you the same way back because he is heterosexual.

That isn't to say you can't tell him your feelings. You may get to know him and he is a very accepting guy, but it's something you should only do when you are both very comfortable around each other. There will always be that chance he is gay or bi, but it's not something you should hope for. If you try and look for it you will pick up on signs that aren't there. You will basically see what you want to see. If you really think being friends will help you then go for it, but don't do it because you feel your feelings cannot get any stronger. That isn't why we are friends with people. You need to be friends with him because you want to care about him and be there for him, not for your own personal gain. If you're doing it solely for yourself then you do not have the right intentions.

Some people may disagree, and they're welcome to, but i just think that being friends with somebody is a commitment that needs to consider how they feel. I don't think it should be done just because you have really strong feelings for him and you want to know everything about him. If you find out he has a girlfriend and he wants advice off you, you need to be honest and give him that good advice. I'm not trying to say you are a bitch and will try and wreck his love life, but if you do let your emotions take control then you may make irrational decisions and cause tension. This is why I think it is really important you should want to be friends with him for others reasons but your own feelings.

 

Well you seem sure about it. Just remember not to do anything you may regret, no matter how right you think it may be!

Good luck.