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Does anyone else have this issue?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Zeldafan1998, Oct 2, 2012.

  1. Zeldafan1998

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    Anytime there is a girl on TV that I am attracted to, I have to be careful that I don't blurt out, "Oh, she's sexy." Or anything like that, since I usually only watch TV with family members. If I do say anything, I just say that she is so pretty. Does anyone else have to bite their tongue when they're watching TV with others, and they see a girl or boy they like? It gets so annoying sometimes, but I'd much rather keep my "totally straight" facade up, than arouse any suspicion.
     
  2. th3wallflow3r

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    actually to some extent yes.
    its why I don't watch glee with my family xD while I'm not sexually attracted to them or anything you have to admit.. hemo and naya?
     
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    I do the same thing. I'm gay and my family don't know it. They are homophobic so I wont be telling them anytime soon. If I see anyone pretty on tv or on the street I have to hide and keep the straight face on or if I read a gay mag I have to read it when I'm alone and then hide the mag up . It gets tyesome at times. Ur not alone in this and I bet there are other people like this out there as well
     
  4. Zeldafan1998

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    th3wallflow3r - I looked them up (Not familiar with Glee's characters), and they make a really cute couple! :slight_smile:
    ems - Oh yeah, especially on the street, I always check girls out and I just hope that no one sees me doing it! I can't help it! :grin:
     
  5. th3wallflow3r

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    bit off topic but I noticed you're Brighton.
    first off do you know much about the surrounding area?
    probably sounds weird but I used to live over that way and found that where I was was really homophobic.. very surprising considering the close proximity to Brighton.. don't suppose you've noticed that too?
     
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    Yh I have noticed . I live near Brighton , in a village called wivelsfield and My whole family and half the people in the village are homophobic .as far as I know I'm the.only gay in the village :frowning2:

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    And who can help not looking at a beautiful women ?
     
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    I used to be in crowborough, there were a few gays guys and a couple of girls but in general the attitude towards them was horrific.
    another reason why I get especially freaked when I hear about people beingouted is because of how they were treated.. I suppose it just wasn't worn off.

    strange though considering the area to an outsider seems to be accepting of gays.
     
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    Yh it is strange and wish it wasnt like that . but no one in thee village knowns I'm gay so people dont hurle abuse but just hearing about it is bad enough.
     
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    good luck eventually coming out.
    tbh I'm heaps happier now I'm away from that environment.
    while I'm not out to my family, I have at least accepted it myself and told some people.

    it was like being in a slow cooker down there.. stress..
     
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    Yh I know what u mean. As soon as I can get away I will its not the most ideal environment to be in . I can just imagine how happier u are away from this .
     
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    definitely.
    well you aren't alone in having all of that...
    its actually very accepting up here.
    Also a few members of the cosplay community I belong to helped me out immensely.
     
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    I don't really have to keep from saying anything, but I do have to make sure I'm not making a face or some other body language type thing. I try to make sure to keep really still, but when you try not to move, that's when you get really fidgety and restless. :confused: