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Worst day of my life, but...

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by spectrumsigner, Oct 3, 2012.

  1. spectrumsigner

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    ...I am NOT going to self-injure. I have been clean for three and a half months and I'm not giving up now.

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    (*hug*) Can I suggest you draw or write something on the part of your body you used to hurt? It's been one of my coping mechanisms for a long time.
     
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    (*hug*) Something that always helps me cope is doing something that I like to do. I play trombone when I am home. When I am at college I write or I'll go and find somebody to talk to until I feel that I will be ok.
     
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    if you're having a ton of trouble, maybe draw a picture of the part you used to hurt and tear it up or burn it or something. its a form of releasing that depression or anger, to take it out on something (sometimes in the form of self-harm). If you transfer that frustration to something that is okay and safer, it can be therapeutic. Doodling on that part is a great idea too.

    I am here with two working ears (or eyes, as it were) if you need a friend.
     
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    I just need support.
     
  6. Haley M

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    Everything will be ok. Life is a giant roller coaster with a lot of ups and downs and twists and turns. Things will get better. Sometimes it just takes a little time. Keep your chin up and fight through it! I am also here if you need to talk!
     
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    i still do this. it actually helps a lot:slight_smile:
     
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    Hang in there! I have always written poems to just express my feelings or I would write a letter to the person I need to talk to and at the end, I'll just either crumble it and throw it in the trash, or shred it. I don't do it because I am angry. I do it because it helps me to leave the past alone and not worry about what ifs! Plus it allows me to be free from the burden that I carry or the frustrations I have about myself, the people that I care about, and allows me to find some peace.
     
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    To cope u could try holding on ice cube tightly in ur hand. Or putting an elastic band on ur wrist and pining it when u feel an erge . There many different ways to cope u have just got to find the right one for u . I have been through what u have so if u need to chat I'm here. Good luck
     
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    Hey, I know how you feel, for the most part. I've been a cutter on and off for a little while, I stopped the other day. I'm already having thoughts about it again, but it doesn't help anything. If you just ignore the urges, eventually you can focus on the solution to your problem, or just get some chocolate ^_^. Good luck, and I hope things start to get better for you tomorrow.