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confused a bit

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by tinkerbuchanan, Oct 12, 2012.

  1. tinkerbuchanan

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    i am a 33year old male who i think is pretty straight. im also newly sober from drug addiction. about 5 years ago i got concerend with my sexuality when i was sober before. i met a girl and we have 2 kids now. well im newly sober AGAIN and the sexuality thing is an obsession again. i have been with many woman over my life but usually just 4 what was between their legs. i really love sex with woman and the way they feel and smell. however emotionally im confused. i like talking wwith men and its easier. although sometimes i dont like how close i feel emotionally to men. and sometimes emtionally im not attracted to woman. i did get turned on watching a gay porn the other day. when im physically attracted to a woman i get uneasy when initially talking to them. sometimes some men give me the same uneasy feeling. let me mention i started using drugs when i was 12 so my devolping years were screwed up i dont know if im gay and have been rpressing or bi or streight im familiar with the kinsey scale so i know everybody is different but im confused-its been bothering me alot
     
  2. Gen

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    There really isnt an honest way to tell unless you leave your fears at the door and see where it takes you. As long as you fear possible homo-bisexuality, your beliefs will always be flawed. In my opinion, it does sound like you are at least bisexual. But you will never know what you are or where you will be happy if you cage yourself in the same situations. Something obviously doesnt feel perfectly right in your relationships with women, so if I were you, I would at least test the waters with men a bit.(I dont mean just casual sex, as that can be disastrous in any situation/orientation).

    I'm sure it wouldnt be necessarily easy to overcome your fears and put yourself out there, but its either that or struggle with this for the rest of your life. You dont deserve that. Either way, I hope you can figure everything out (*hug*).