Whats up? I'm confused about my sexuality, i dont know if like guys or girls. I've always liked straight porn when i was a kid, and don't get me wrong - i can still get up and off too it.. But i enjoy gay porn more. I find myself constantly irritated by the throughts of being gay, too the point im cranky and avoid social contact (that and i don't overly enjoy people). I've told a couple "friends" i was potentially Bi-sexual, but they went out and told people - because they're drunks without the ability too process simple functions in their simple little minds. But here's the catch, i have hooked up with a couple guys - I didn't OVERLY enjoy it, don't get me wrong - it was alright.. After i blew my load though, i would think stuff like "shit, what'd i just do (litterally). I have slept with a handful of women, and i enjoyed that too, but i was drunk a lot of the time. I'm heavily into working out and nutrition, so the only reason i can think i didn't enjoy my hook ups with the dudes is cuz i have high standards for their bodies and these guys don't take exercise serious (I am an asshole like that unfortunately), and by serious i mean, finger curls off the Digital Receiver Box is a workout routine. I have had girlfriends, but they may also be the reason i turned potentially gay. One was a total biatch, with a nice bum though.. i still think about her bum when i do my deed sometimes (Another Point for straight!) But Guys bodies make me very happy too. When I am in public i rarely see a guy id be like damn, i'd totally do the gay with him.. and then i see girls and im like, shit - that girls pretty good looking, but idk if i'd go deep in her. (comeon now, thats pretty gay) So i'm either a very fussy Gay man, or a Straight guy whose pissed cuz i think i'm gay guy. Please help.. sorry if i come off as rude. ---------- Post added 17th Oct 2012 at 04:39 PM ---------- I'll also add i have a crush on a couple girls, but no guys right now. But i don't know if i should make a move on the one im more interested in because she works at the gym I go too and is also 29-31 years old.. But i find her attractive. ---------- Post added 17th Oct 2012 at 04:43 PM ---------- I'll also add there's a couple girls i like, but i don't know if i'm fully attracted too them sexually. I cannot explain it, part of me wants too ask em out, but part of me doesn't.
I'm not great at advice stuff so I'm sure someone else will have a more detailed, well thought out answer but, you can like guys and girls both. DO you think it's possible that you could just be Bi-sexual...and Bi-sexual doesn't have to be 50/50 you can like both but like one gender more then the other.
Yeahhh that's where i think i'm at. Just denial i guess. Maybe ill just ask one of the girls out and see if i can get any pleasure out of it. I don't have very many options in such a small town too try dating a dude.
I wouldn't advise dating someone just to test yourself, it's not really fair. I'd just keep an open mind and date someone if you like them male or female...but if you want to date a guy it's not impossible in a small town...my town has 27,000 people and there are plenty of gay/bi guys...after all they say 10-15% of guys are gay or bi =P
oh i like these girls. i was considering asking them out anyways - i just gotta suck it up and ask em.
The only person that can really tell you who you are and what you like is yourself so anything below is just a guess from what you have posted so far. There are a couple of things so I'll just mention them as I go. Feeling guilty or ashamed right after you finish is actually a very common occurrence for people just coming out or in denial. After you stop being horny you start to realize everything that this entails, and the shame ensues. No one turns gay. You either are or you aren't. Bad relationships don't turn you gay, bad parents don't turn you gay. We don't know exactly what makes someone be gay or straight, but we do know that it is set before 2 years old and after that there is no evidence that you can change it. You should try to dive more into those feelings and see if there is something there. There is a difference between knowing that someone is attractive and then finding them attractive, which seems what might be a lot of your confusion. Like Neutrality said, there is also a chance that you are in fact bi, but you lean a bit more towards guys.
I was exactly in this situation before, the only difference is that I found out I was gay when a lot of girls flirt with me (in different times/situations), brushing their breasts all over me, hugging me -- I was dumbfounded because I was NEVER turned on. Poor me. On the other hand, one skin to skin contact with a very attractive guy sets my rod stiff in about less than a millisecond. Poor me. Plus, I had flings and dated girls as well, but I don't really fancy them if I'm being honest with myself. They walk so slowly, they are so vain, they like to talk about themselves A LOT, they love their egos stroked, etc.. I can go on from here, but It's just a personal taste. Going with guys on the other hand are far more fun and exciting, because it's just like going out with a buddy/brother from another mother. You share the same interests and sentiments. Again, just a personal taste. You are bisexual dude, you do not have to tell anyone, that is your choice, but it is mandatory to accept it, for you to be able to love yourself.
