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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by not too sure, Oct 22, 2012.

  1. not too sure

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    hay im 24 and been curious and got really horny watching gay male porn alot but always love shagging girls i have experience stuff with guys like a blow job i really did enjoy this and found it really hot, im not sure because i only want a sexual realation if anything what am i???
     
  2. Jim1454

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    Hi there, and welcome to EC.

    It's hard to say, based on what you've shared. You might be bisexual - interested in both sexes.

    However, I was where you are about 6 years ago. I was married with kids, and had no issues with the sex I had with my wife. But I got more turned on with gay porn and sex with men. In the end, when I finally admited that I might be gay and considered what it might be like to have more than just a physical relationship with a man, I like that idea too. And essentially, I haven't really looked back. I consider myself to be gay. Once I accepted that, I really was more interested in sex with men than with women. And if I look back, gay porn should have been an indicator of this for me. But I didn't contemplate that I might not be straight.

    Good for you for at least contemplating the possibilities. Good luck!
     
  3. The Queen Bee

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    Hmm...
    You're not giving enough information.

    Have you had crushes on guys??
    Like "I really wanna be his friend", "I admire X a lot", "X is really cool, I like being with him a lot"... Those are indicators. (I didn't really have those working for me, though.)
    When you're on the bus or in a crowded place: do you look (NOT necessarily in a sexual way) at men more often than women?? (This one should have been obvious for me. I noticed I did that; but I thought it was nothing.)
    Characters in movies... Do you "like" better/feel drawn towards the female characters or the male characters??

    Sometimes it's hard to know whether you're gay or not, if you haven't had a crush.
    I didn't have a crush on a woman until I was 22-23 years old. From that moment on I started to actually think I might be a lesbian...
    For a while I wasn't sure what the hell was I, given that I still feel attracted to guys (yes, both romantically and sexually).
    It wasn't until I was watching this horror movie, The Descent, for like the tenth time... There's a scene where the protagonist is jogging back to her cabing and I was there thinking: "she looks really good. I like her smile" and it hit me: I had a major crush on this character. A lightbulb went on my head. "Juno Kaplan is a girl. I like girls. Girls who like girls are called lesbian. THEREFORE I'M A MAJOR LESBIAN!!"...
    From that point on I knew that this is what I was. I'm into girls.
    And so, I decided to tell one of my closest friends: my sister.

    Sometimes it's just no that obvious for some of us.