I'm gay and I have a crush on a guy I think is straight, I feel he gives signs

I think that because you have a crush on this guy, that you are over analyzing the whole eye contact thing. I can hold a stare with any straight guy for at least 3 seconds before they look away. It means nothing. Eye contact is eye contact. It's just his response to you staring at him. He's probably wondering why you are doing it.

The only way you can truly know that your crush is interested in you is to come out to him, and then wait; or come out to him and then tell him you have a crush; OR, directly ask him, or hear it through a mutual friend. I mean, this is the ONLY way you will know with 100% certainty. Otherwise, it's just a guessing game. Don't drive yourself crazy.

As to becoming comfortable with your sexuality... Anything I tell you will be pretty cliche, and easier said than done. To be comfortable with your sexuality is to ultimately be comfortable with yourself. I can't really give much more advice on that, because it's hard for me to articulate. It just happened for me. I became comfortable with my sexuality at the same time that I learned to be comfortable with myself.

 

I'm really glad to hear you made a new friend. Just be careful not to jump conclusions about getting the number. I met a guy in my math class in a very similar way. We'd always exchange looks... one day he just asked for my number. And actually, he was very straight... but guess what? We became best friends.

Let us know if anything cool happens!

 

*raise hand* some people find it easier to speak than to like, twiddle your thumb and punch tiny keys.

if you ask me, i prefer typing on a computer more.

 

I feel like I've had some variation of this situation so many times. I wonder how many guys on this forum *haven't* felt something like this.

I also have had the same thing happen (less often, only maybe 3 times in my life) with a girl/woman I thought really was into me, and it turned out she had a fiancee/long-term boyfriend/was not into me at all.

Maybe they were attracted to me on some level. Maybe your friend is also attracted to you. And maybe it won't matter, anyway. This stuff isn't that simple. It's possible that on some level he's physically attracted to you but doesn't consciously realize it and/or would never act on it. Most civilizations, even now, allowed for some kind of physical affection between guys, but ours forbids it unless you sign up to be gay. So unless your friend is actually willing to make that leap, it might be that there's an undercurrent of attraction but it will never go anywhere physical.

Just one time in my life, I had this ongoing crush on this guy. It eventually did get physical months later...the sex was dissatisfying, he wasn't willing to open up anymore emotionally, and in the end, I wish we'd just stayed close friends and had never touched each other.

Or it could be something else completely. That's what makes these things so frustrating!

 

pft... lucky bitch. o_o'

i mean.. Good for you. ;D lol
i wish my scenarios would end like that.
good luck my friend.

 

I have no advice because obviously I don't have a clue, but I really hope it turns out well, especially with the friendship.

 

I've been in the same situation, and it turned out that I was completely wrong and she was straight... but I really really hope that you get what you want with him. But just don't get your hopes up too much, and be realistic about it;

A) He may be straight
B) If he is gay/bi, he might not fancy you any way (sorry that isn't meant to sound horrible, it's just a fact - I've fancied a lesbian who wasn't into me)


Buuut something slightly positive, even if he has broken up with his girlfriend - doesn't mean he's straight. He could have been experimenting, or he could be bi.

I just really hope it goes well for you

 

I don't have much to add other than that this is a cute story, and I hope you become good friends with him! It reminds me a bit of someone I'm trying to become better friends with (I have a thread about it a few pages back).

My guy is awful at texting, and I could easily reach the conclusion that he doesn't like me... but every time I see him in person I don't think so, so it's probably nothing.

I know what you're saying about the blushy stuff too. Although most of the time I'm afraid of seeming cold and boring, which is kind of not similar.

"All girls are the same" could be a way of him suggesting that he want's to try something other than girls. Could be nothing, but if we're being optimistic, we could reach that conclusion.

 

I catch a guy at work eye locking with me all the time, I also have a crush on him. I then decided to see if I could lock eyes with other dudes at work, and guess what it happens often. I think he is straight.

People look each other in the eyes, and can sense another person looking at them. Whenever I look at someone they look back usually.

 

Hi HeyBeard, I wanted to post a response because I have started to follow your thread as I'm in an almost identical situation....its great you have this crush, but like me, sounds like you're just as confused about it all lol.

I'm just as desperate to tell my crush how I feel about him...I almost did back in the summer but couldn't pluck the courage to do it because I was just as worried I would freak him out and scare him away. I now wish I did because we seemed so much closer then than we do now I think for the most part he's straight now, but there's still part of me that says he's at least curious. I'm also uncomfortable with him talking about girls....nd I just go red nd go all quiet. Damn its annoying. Not sure how I can help you there unfortunately...

These two comments are also very fitting to my situation....my crush is also very bad at texting, he often won't reply to texts and when he does, they are often short responses. When on facebook he will often take a while to reply and again the responses are often short. I've recently felt that he isn't interested in talking to me or hanging out as much as when we first met. I know he's busy with college n' all tho, but I, like TwoMethod, sometimes come to the conclusion that he doesn't like me anymore and its rather depressing. I really don't want to lose him as a friend because we also have a lot in common (we have the same hobby, and met while out at our local spot). I'm worried that if I tell him, and he doesn't accept it, it could make things very awkward for us I guess. I'm trying to suppress my feelings for him at the mo, but its difficult. He's just split from a gf and was round mine that evening, we had a small foam fight while cleaning up dinner and I ended up drying his face with a towel. Doesn't sound much but it felt almost intimate as he didn't stop me from doing it :icon_redf (normally he don't do touchy feely), and we gazed at each other while it happened. This didn't help with my plan to suppress my feelings.

Soz its a bit of a long reply....keep us posted on what happens, maybe you'll have more luck! :icon_wink