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Blow jobs sex or not?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Alexander69, Oct 26, 2012.

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  1. Alexander69

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    Ok so this guy told me we didn't have to have sex that i could just suck him off. (Blow job) I'm like that's still sex and I don't want to have sex with you so leave it at that. And he's like blow jobs are not sex...... "I" think blow jobs are sex. Am I wrong here? Is a blow job considered sex? Btw I don't like this guy haha I haven't talked to him anymore but I just wanted to know if a BJ is sex or not?
     
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    Oh, dear. Really? Look, you can catch any number of STDs doing that, so clearly it is sex. Fairly straightforward, and he should already know that.
     
    #2 PinkTractor, Oct 26, 2012
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    I really depends on the person what you call sex. Personally, I think a blow job isn't sex. Then again, when me and my boyfriend have a fun night, except we don't do anal, it would feel silly to say we didn't have sex; we sortof did.
    So I'm not very consistent in what I call sex and what I don't call sex. And if one person can't even be sure, then how can we ever all agree?
    Sex is what you think it is, there's no right or wrong answer to this question.
     
    #3 justinf, Oct 26, 2012
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    Its oral sex. Sex isn't just pounding someone in the ass, you know..
     
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    Well if you are Bill Clinton the it isn't sex...I don't consider it sex because then I lost my virginity to a girl that way. So I say it is not!
     
    #5 jaysuss, Oct 26, 2012
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    My thought on the matter. How is having you dick in my ass sex, but having it in my throat not.
     
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    It is "oral sex". So therefore it IS sex
     
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    When I think of sex, I see it as being something very intimate, like vaginal or anal penetration. To me oral just doesn't seem as "personal" and is more detached. So I don't really view it as legitimate sex. It's just my opinion though.
     
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    It's sex. It's using genitals to orgasm.
     
    #9 Caudex, Oct 26, 2012
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    Ok so he keeps texting me.... And this may sound stupid... Ok 1. He's not my type at all 2. I've never dated at anything. So now I'm questioning if I should suck his dick or not? Get practice?

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    And he was being a jerk at first and now he's complementing me say how hot I am and all this stuff and I k ow he's trying to get me in bed but I will NOT have anal if anything ill just BJ him.
     
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    Why would you have sex with someone you don't have feelings for?

    That said, normatively (meaning > 50% of people think) oral sex is sex. But like others have said, it largely varies from person to person.
     
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    If he's not your type then I wouldn't do it.
     
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    oh my god, get practice? lol sex is sex, whether its oral or otherwise

    from a behavioral standpoint, sucking this guy off is only going to reinforce him bugging you for sex, so it is really not a good idea ... in my opinion
     
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    LMAO he wants it so bad it's priceless! I mean I'm a Virgin and I'm worried that if I do have sex with him that I won't be able to orgasm? Is this normal I have worries like this?

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    OH ya I forgot to mention I'm 17 turning 18 in November and he's 16 turning 17. And the age difference I don't like I like a guy older then me not younger and it's creeping me out u feel like a pedo even though its 1 year diff

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    I really don't know what to do other people who have wanted to have sex with me literally took me out on a date and then when we got in the car started touching me and I'm like no I can't do this. People view me as a slut and I hate it. I'm a freaking virgin sure ive fooled around but I've never had sex. And this guy I don't know I really don't know I he's using me or what and I'm so confused! And I do t want to date someone who does drugs!

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    And I don't Want want to have sex with him if I don't like him! But at the same time I want to lose my virginity

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    Ok I just texted him I was like I can't do this I'm not ready and I don't want to regret it.
     
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    lol sounds like you need to just do it and get it over with
     
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    He was actually really understanding he said :0 I'm shocked he's being so nice now :slight_smile:
     
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    I'm sure he's being the nicest guy ever lol Boys will do anything to get that sweet satisfaction :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    He's like I want you to love me before we have sex that way it's better
     
    #18 Alexander69, Oct 26, 2012
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    but you can't "want someone to love you"....
     
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    I feel like such a shity person because he's not really my type but HOW CAN I TELL HIM THAT! I HAVNT even met him in person yet just via text and my best friend. But from his pic he's to boyish and not man enough for me he's more feminine then masculine and I need a MAN not a boy. Ugh
     
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