I've been struggling with loneliness for a long time now. I'm done with highschool... now I'm in a tech school getting certified in computer related areas. I don't have any friends in-person, I never really have. I'm often just very lonely... I live on my own in a transitional living program, but I keep feeling like I'm missing out. I did highschool online, meaning that I was in a study hall all day, every day... I don't have any friends, I never really have.. I want friends, but I just don't know how to make them. I want relationships... I want more... but I'm lost.
Are there any clubs or sports activities at your tech school that you could join where you could meet others? How about forming a study group with classmates at school? To meet friends you're going to need to get out where others are around and talk to others. Best of luck.
Trust me. I know what it's like to feel alone. I seem to live in a perpetual state of loneliness. While I may not have too many suggestions that aren't obvious, what I do have is an offer for an attempt to take the edge off, if only a little. If you ever feel the need or want, you can always reach me through my wall or a private message. Knowing what being lonesome can do to a person, I would never want anyone else to have to go through it if there's no need for them to. (*hug*)
I'll be 21 in January. I am used to it - everyone at the tech school is like 40 something or older... I'm sorry for ranting. I take psych meds, and I get depressed in the evenings. I'm just lonely in general... I wish I had friends and things were different. I do take medication for various mental reasons, I just have a hard time in the evenings.
Hey Mitchell! Sorry to hear/read that you are feeling so lonely. And it is totally okay to rant and to vent. (*hug*) Joining an activity would allow you to start getting to know people, or at least lay the foundations for it. Is there a chance that you could get to know some people and make some friends in your community, by joining an activity at the community centre? Is there a youth evening program in your community that you could join or perhaps even a youth LGBT support/social group?
Hi. Thanks for your kind words... No, there really isn't. I went to a LGBT group before, but the only one is 45mins to an hour away, and I have no means to get there on my own... and it's too far to ask my parents to drive me to. They took me a few times, and I enjoyed it, but they said the gas was too much, and it was just a big hassle to go there.
Mitchell! Haven't seen you posting in a while, nice to see you back! It is definitely hard when you don't have the opportunities to socialize that other people have. Have you considered doing something social that might attract a bunch of gay guys? Here are some examples -- Take a class (maybe some sort of fashion or design, or something else stereotypically gay) -- Check and see if there's an LGBT center in your area -- Look at meetup.com groups in your area for gay men -- See if there's a gay men's chorus, theater group, or something like that you can join -- Volunteer to help your local PFLAG And outside of activities for gay men, just doing one or more of the above with *any* social groups would help you to develop friends. -- Volunteer somewhere. A soup kitchen, an animal shelter, a hospital, almost anything else. You can make friends pretty easily at those places. -- Join a hiking or biking club -- Take a fitness class It may be hard to do any of those because I'm guessing you're a little shy. But the way you get over that is to intentionally "stretch" yourself and do things that are a little uncomfortable. If you go to just one such meeting/group, you'll usually find someone to talk to and that makes it easier for the next time.
Thanks. I actually have a plan to go volunteer somewhere on Monday... I like to think of the people that I'm volunteering at as friends, it's a local school, in a program for intensive needs students. I work with the young kids.
you could randomly say Hi to a stranger you see everyday (some other student you don't know or another regular costumer at a store you go to) it sounds weird but it works
Thanks. Yeah... I've been doing that, I guess I need to question myself to define who a friend is.... the more I think about it, I have people I talk to, but I don't know if I can classify them as a friend.
Yeah, i'm guilty of that too. I am however, trying not to and I have gained a lot by talking to those people who may or may not be as lonely as me
Hey, I used to be alot like you. I think I made my first group of friends at like 21 so I know how you feel....If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to bother me =P..As a bonus I'm a huge IT nerd too! Currently working on an associates in Computer Information Technology and studying for my CCNA
