Sorry that its long So let me start off by saying I have a crush on this guy, have for awhile, hes straight. Im not an idiot, I know its never gonna go anywhere and its not like I like him alot its just a small crush. Anyway the problem is that I see him twice a week and every time I see him he thinks of a new way to try and make me laugh ( Im quiet and realy shy so I dont really talk or laugh or smile, everyone thinks Im depressed but Im not, Im just quiet) Anyway his newest idea was to, well he kept running his hands through my hair and touching me in "provocative" ways. I know he was just doing it to mess with me and I dont think he would have if he knew I was gay. But you see I would really like it if he stopped doing that, because that just messes with my head, I would ask him not to, but knowing him he would probably just start doing it more, so I was wondering if anyone had any advice that you think could help me get him to stop.
hey, well my best advice is to play with it .. he wouldn't do unless there was reasoning ya know? flirt back start to push me and see the boundaries if that makes sense....... flatter him..... and push and then you will have more of an idea:icon_bigg
I had the EXACT same thing going on with this guy (who has a girlfriend to boot). He would touch my stomach, then rub it, then go up my chest........... even <<I>> thought that was strange. Long story short, I came out, he was cool with it. I figured that was pretty much the end of him ever touching me again, but a week later he's feeling up my biceps and thighs. WTF. Maybe your friend is just touchy-feely. My friend maintains his straightness, and we're practically best friends and I trust him completely, so I believe him. If he's an open minded friend he should be cool with you coming out regardless of his sexual orientation, and then you can go from there. It'll be a lot easier either way once you're out, imho.
You have a few options here. But without a lot of thought on the subject, just play back as another EC member posted. It seems like that's all he wants. Once you are able to have a serious conversation with him, start sharing. Providing you're comfortable tell him you're gay. Depending on his own "orientation" etc., he may stop or return for more. Now would'nt that just make your day!! :eusa_danc Hey maybe this sounds like a fantasy. Truth is......you've got "nothing" to loose! :icon_wink Hang in there! Stay Strong & Press On! Suede7 Delray Beach, FL.
