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homophobic parent...can someone help me...

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by bandgeekforlife, Oct 29, 2012.

  1. bandgeekforlife

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    hi so my dad is homphobic and i'm bisexual and i want to come out its just i'm so so so scared please someone help!
     
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    How homophobic? Are you afraid he'll disown you?
     
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    i know it may sound harsh, but given the case that you do tell him, make sure that you have a couple emergency exits, some friend or family member that would be ready to receive you if your father threw you out
     
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    Are you out to any one else? It'll be easier on you and everyone around you if you come out to the most accepting people first. They can often help smooth things out between you and, for example, your dad.
     
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    I know you feel. It is a very scary thing to come out to a homophobic parent especially if they're very loud about their opinions and feel strong about it. This is the one and only reason why I haven't told my father.
    Depending on how homophobic your father is the advice could vary. It could be the best idea to just wait until you move out so you won't be in danger or maybe when you want to tell him after a while he will cool down. It definitely helps to have support from other family members with things like this.
     
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    yes i am very afraid of that!

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    i;m not to some people in my band class which honestly is my family

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    some people know in band just not many

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    yes i have a wonderful best frind to help me and a whole band class