Hey guys, just wondering if I was alone in sometimes feeling guilty in certain "normal" situations where guys around me are in very little/ no cloths. The other week I went to an ABC (anything but cloths) party and all the guys there basically ended up naked. Obviously I noticed and enjoyed the free show, but I felt kind of guilty the next day. No one there knew I am gay and I wonder if people would have still done it if they had known. I also feel guilty when I go to the gym. All of these hot guys are getting naked around me what am I supposed to do? lol. Just wondering if anyone else ever feels any guilt about this and how you cope with it. Guess its not a huge deal really Im more just curious
Well, when people are naked around you, and it's not a sexual situation, you're supposed to do exactly as you already do, which is respectfully regard people.
I understand. All the hot guys in the gym locker room being naked around me is such a turn on. It been hard not to show my excitment. Some I'm sure suspect that I am . I've felt very guilty with this . Which is why I'm very much in the closet . Sometimes have doubts with my sexuality
I understand too! I am not out and I am afraid that when I come out, the girls at school will feel uncomfortable changing in the locker-room when I am there.. I don't want it to be awkward.. That doesn't help my coming out process.
If you're around naked people enough, in non-sexual settings, it totally loses its shock/arousal factor. One suggestion might be to visit a nudist beach or private club or hot springs. There's nothing inherently sexual about nudity, and if you spend time at one of these places, the novelty of naked people wears off pretty quickly, and you can find yourself having in-depth conversations with people where both of you are naked... and you completely forget that people are naked. I think your response is due to the taboo you've grown up with, which isn't based in anything you need to stay attached to.
I don't feel guilty in these situations. I mean, what is there to feel guilty about? If people knew about your sexuality and wanted to make things awkward than that's their choice. They are too ignorant to see that simply changing lockers isn't going to stop you from being gay, and you are the same person that they did change next to. Straight guys should learn to take a compliment once in a while.
You would be surprised on how many of those “straight” guys you saw were thinking the same thing you were.
I go to a gym where there are a lot of young college students. I notice that about half the time they shower wearing underwear or shorts in the shower room. I assume that this means they are embarrassed for some reason about what they look like, so I would expect that they are more concerned about what they are thinking than what any observers might be thinking. I would also assume that they are straight, because if they were looking to attract anyone they would be showing what they have to offer. I have never observed any "boners" there or anywhere else in the locker room; nothing very sexually arousing about it, just guys changing clothes.