So ever since I came out about a month ago, I can not get horny. Before I would think about guys and fantasize about them, but now I have no sexual desires. I used to have a big crush on my gay friend before I came out to him. Since I came out we have started talking but I do not have any sexual desires. I still jack off (sorry if that was tmi) but I do it just to do it. I never get horny and want to go do it really bad. And when me and friend do stuff with each other, sure it feels great but I just do not care. It is almost like I can get sexual physically but not mentally. I just want to know if any else has went through this and if a lot of people go through this. Cause all I have heard is that you turn into a little sex machine when you come out and I am def not a little sex machine. I never want to look at porn anymore cause it doesnt really do anything for me now. My libido is down so much. Maybe I just need to get used to being gay. I still feel funny when I think about being open about who I am because I have lied to people my whole life. I was thinking that after I start accepting and getting used to who I am then maybe my libido would go back up to what it used to be. I just want to get horny again!
Maybe you're stressed out or something? It's probably not something permanent. I'd be willing to bet your libido will come back in a few weeks/months, once your life has settled down a bit.
I agree you are probably stressed maybe even depressed. My libido has been absolute shit for months now. I couldn't tell you the last time i had any sexual desire whatsoever.
