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Slightly confused about a work situations

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Gazza123, Nov 11, 2012.

  1. Gazza123

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    Right

    Do at work I usually keep myself to myself and although I say the occasional "hi" and I sit with them in the cafe I rarely speak. Now I wanna ask you guys something which is confusing me. Is it because they don't know I'm gay and I can't be myself, not that myself is much different or is it just cause I'm not good a socialising.

    I mean I don't wanna go "hey and oh by the way I'm gay" but I'm just confused.

    And as luck would have it they were talking about gay stuff in the staff cafe and they all seem pretty cool with it.

    I don't know
     
  2. Average Joe

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    Hey! I think it's great that your coworkers seem to be so tolerant. Maybe next time they bring up LGBT topics you could casually hint that you're gay? From what you say it looks like they'd be okay with it anyway. And then you could be yourself at work, which would probably help you make friends with them. It's a win-win situation :slight_smile:
     
  3. Gazza123

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    One of my co workers already knows. I just don't wanna make like a big thing out of it but at the same time I feel like am hiding and can't fully be myself

    I'm thinking of just dropping hints cause they were talking about gay night clubs being fun and I was gonna say something like "what made you go to gay night clubs, I could never do that" and just sorta lead on from there
     
  4. BudderMC

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    Well the thing is, if you consider yourself "out to everyone" and you know they're fine with gay things (supposedly), theoretically you should be able to sit down and not have to make an announcement about it. Just try running with the conversation like any other non-gay related conversation. And then the only decision you ever have to make is whether or not to say something gay-related if the topic comes up.
     
  5. Mirko

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    Hi there! One way to not make a big deal out of it, would be just to run with the conversation, as BudderMC said.

    If a topic on LGBT comes up, mention something that you have experienced or would like to do. For example, should they talk about gay night clubs again, you can try bringing yourself into the conversation by saying (as you have started) 'I never was able to go into a club, yet.'

    Depending on how comfortable you feel, you could ask them, if they would be willing to go with you. It might actually make it easier for you to go in.
     
  6. Gazza123

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    Thanks

    Although the reason I don't go to gay nightclubs is just cause I don't do do nightclubs full stop but your advice and BudderMCs makes sense