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So, guess what happened to Katie and me yesterday

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by spectrumsigner, Nov 11, 2012.

  1. spectrumsigner

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    I don't care what your beliefs are or what kind of "morals" and "values" you think you have. If you yell (in a public place, to a loving couple who are minding their own business and being perfectly G-rated) that they "ought to be ashamed of themselves", YOU ARE A BULLY, and you are clearly incapable of exercising any type of verbal filter or minding your own business.
     
  2. Pret Allez

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    Wow, so you and your girlfriend were publicly harassed? That's shit.
     
  3. Morons will be morons
     
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    I'm sorry to hear that... people suck sometimes. Nobody deserves to be harassed in public.
     
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    People say "it gets better" -- but sometimes I wonder if that's code for "it really doesn't, but you get used to it and learn to tune it out."
     
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    It shocking that this is still common in some areas.

    I've never encountered anything like that publicly over here. But just say the word and I will be on a plane, sharpening my knifes....
     
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    I'm sorry to hear about this, I really am. I often get really sad when I think about people and the human race on the whole, and stories like this just help to reinforce that. For the record, the people who harassed you and your girlfriend are morons.

    Also, I've had that same thought before about when people say, "It gets better." Sometimes it really does seem like what they really mean is, "You get used to it."

    Good luck to both of you. You certainly don't deserve the hate that's been thrown at you.
     
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    Living in middle of Nowhere, America leaves something to be desired...

    I think that's the moral of this story.
     
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    that is shit indeed! i notice a lot of people who criticize the "it gets better" slogan/campaign/ideal/whatever because it does sound like one day magically everybody will be cool with you no matter what. but if you ask me, "it gets better" means that eventually (ideally) you'll realize that it just plain doesn't matter how awful or ignorant everyone else is because it just plain feels great to be yourself.
     
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    wow that's terrible. they suck
     
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    Been there, heard that. Felt those burning glares of outraged morality. It totally sucks, and if you can rise above it and still have a great day, more power to you.
    Sometimes you feel so assaulted out of nowhere, it takes a while to get back to yourself.
    They say try to put yourself in the other person's place...well, no. The idea of screaming at strangers in public for who they choose to hold hands with.....just NO.
     
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    I found the thought (thought, and not action) of this quite amusing XD
     
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    Unfortunately, it doesn't only happen in the middle of nowhere, America. It happens everywhere, even in the places where you would least expect it.

    I am so sorry that you had to deal with this, though. It's awful and nobody should ever have to listen to someone publicly harassing them like that.
     
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    Sorry to hear someone was showing how UNCARING and INSENSITIVE they are by doing that in public.

    I guess they just like everybody knowing that they are a dickhead.
     
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    There are a lot of bigoted, ignorant people out there.

    If you were comfortable enough, the quickest way to turn that around and defuse it might be to say something like "Well, actually, we're quite proud of who we are. But if I were you, I'd be ashamed of judging someone, particularly in a public setting, since the Bible tells us it's not our place to judge anyone else."
     
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    I think everyone else has said pretty much everything that comes to mind, but I figured I'd offer my support ^^ whoever they were, they're obviously losers who sit on their computers and try to feel better about the fact that they cannot find the beautiful love that you and your girlfriend have :slight_smile:

    Yep. Well, at least there are lots of accepting and awesome people here! C:
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