I've finally decided to begin the second phase of my coming out. The first was my parents about a month ago, the second will be my grandma and my sister, plus just talking with my parents again when I'm not so overly-emotional, since we haven't discussed it since I first came out. I think I will come out to my sister(who is two years younger than me and a freshman in high school) first, probably next weekend. I can already imagine her reaction: Me: I'm gay. Her: ... *stares at me with blank look* Me: Do you want to ask any questions or anything? Her: ....No...can I go watch my show yet? Me: Are you sure you have absolutely no questions? Her: YES I'M SURE! God, you're SO ANNOYING! Can I leave yet?!? With my grandma I'm thinking next Monday when we go visit her. Here's how I think it will go with her: Me: Grandma, I've got something important to tell you. Her: What is it? Me: I'm gay. Her: Oh....I made a cake earlier since I knew you were coming over. Do you want some? Me: Of course. *eats cake* I think they'll both be fine with it. My sister will just be indifferent to it(or possibly ask if I suddenly am interested in shopping, a practice which I currently despise), and grandma will start ranting about how the crazy right-wingers are trying to make her beloved grandson miserable. So it should be a much less stressful process than 'phase one'. This time I'm actually looking forward to it, while last time I was scared to death. I just wish this week were over with already! EDIT: maybe this would be better off in another place on the forums, I dunno...
Those are great conversations that I wish I could have for any occasion...especially the part where I would get to eat cake!
I had a similar experience with my sister (as in, her not caring at all). I think the only real question she asked was if my parents knew (they did). My brother also didn't care (he's 13, she's 16). Aah, I just love younger, indifferent siblings...
Well...I didn't end up doing it this weekend. Everyone(including me)was sick, and we were all depressed and moping around the house and all, so I didn't feel like doing it. If I am not sick next weekend, I will do it then. But, I am more sure than ever my sister will be fine with it. She LOVES Kevin from Brothers and Sisters.
My Grandpa knows he was so funny when I told him. Me: Abuelito, I like guys Him: I know Me: Any questions Him: No, not really Me: Okay Him: Can we go get the burritos now, I'm really hungry Me: Beans & Rice Him: Yup! Me: Okay
Haha ah to have coming out conversations like that! I can't imagine my parents (and especially Grandparents) being that indifferent wen i finally get enough courage to tell them (or anyone for that matter...) But anyway, I'm glad you are ready to move onto stage 2! i hope it all goes as smoothly as you think!
Favorite part: *eats cake* Well, I'm glad there were no heated battles! But for some reason it seems my sister is more intent of having me shop with her. And I too hate shopping, unless its for ME! hah
wow---please tell me how did u get the courage to tell both ur parents first??? i'd be too scared to do it, plus i cant tell my sister about me, she would act immature about it...but anywayz good luck on ur next phase!
I don't know how I did it...I know I was scared to death the whole time tho... I was sorta forced into it. Well...not really. But it was either tell them or lie and make up some story. And I'm NOT a good liar. They wouldn't have trusted me at all if I had lied, so I just told them the truth. Plus, deep down, I knew they would be fine with it. They're just awesome like that Its nice living in one of the few really liberal families in the area. Makes my life a LOT easier.
