So things have been going great with the girl I'm dating since we talked and I finally felt I could relax. Except today I found out the girl I'm with thinks we have a open relationship. Yep this day sucks! So I have a lot of life experience for someone my age, therefor a lot of people rely on me for things. Most of the time I'm complimenting, encouraging, open, & make a lot of jokes. So apparently since I talk to just about everyone the same way this means I am flirting/charming everyone & because I don't usual date people, I have a tune of hook-ups with both guys or girls. :tantrum: I am still a virgin & haven't really had any relations with anyone.:dry: but even my friends think I'm hooking-up without telling them. Ok yes I do have kinda a flirty under tone, I am at almost every social even, I do give people rides that lead to them talking to me for an hour+ about their problems, & I do know almost everyone by name. But this girl thinks that I'm a hug player and she is just another fling for me. No, that's completely wrong, she is my first really anything and I got it so bad for her. How is it that I have this type of opinion going around about me and never knew about it.:bang: I tried to tell her that it was a lie and I want her as my only girlfriend. Yet she disregarded this and assumed I was just trying to make her feel better.:help:. I'm not out but people assume I'm at least bi & have told her if she wants to have a good time while she's studying in America, then it's fine if we get together, but she shouldn't expect anything for to long cause I'm a great person/friend but Ill never be the commitment type. :tears: why do people say these thing, I'm nothing like that, my brothers r & yes it is genetic that everyone in my family can get what they want cause we're charmers, but how can I prove that I don't want anyone else but her.:help:
Quite a situation you got there. The thing with reputation, is that it has a life on it's own. It's really difficult to change one's reputation, even more to change it to a desired one. The thing is, that you don't need to ask us how to prove her you love only her. She is the one you'll need to be asking it . You need to speak honestly to her, and ask her what can convince her you're talking with the truth. I'm going to be a little pessimist here, but I think that if she doesn't change her conception of you, or refuse to accept anything from you as a proof of your love; you'll need to let her go. I may be wrong of course. But if she likes you at all, she'll be willing for you to demonstrate your love. So ask her, I don't think you'll loose anything just by asking. Anyway, cheer up(*hug*)(*hug*) Edit: Sorry forgot to say, No, you're not a slut.
:lol: Thanks I blame my older brothers for our rep seance they apparently use our gift for talking for evil purposes. See I do agree with what you said and I am planing to speak to her but it still hurts that she thinks that of me. I can give advice to anyone but can't seem to do well when it's my own feeling. I'm a action type of person when it comes to relationships, I drive her everywhere, go to all her swim meets, give her flowers after theater performances, plan surprises for her, & I've even woke up at 4:30 twice a week to take her to morning swim practices when school for me starts at 7:45 :dry: apparently I'm just a very nice person and none of that is an example of how much she means to me. This thread was just kinda a I can't believe I thought being in a gay secret relationship would be easy.
