My girlfriend is bouncing up and down on my last nerves. She's needy. Cranky. Moody. Resentful. Jealous. And I don't think she trusts me. WTF? I've never done anything to make her not trust me, but yet my female cousin (COUSIN!!!) comes into town and I hang out with her because she's practically my best friend and the only one who I can be myself around and the only one who knows about my less than hetero-sexuality and my girlfriends turn into a complete psycho. My female cousin might be moving down here and we would be getting an apartment together if she did -- my girlfriend thusly insinuated that I was going to sleep with my COUSIN!!! ( :tantrum: ) That is never going to happen for so many reasons, the first being that she is my COUSIN!!!!!! She gets mad when I have to stay home and work on things instead of seeing her. She tries to make me feel bad about it. I'm getting so fucking sick and tired of this bullshit.:***:
This girlfriend of yours has control issues I think that is the best point to make here. It seems like this is heading in a very unhealthy direction and you should break up with her right way before it gets violent.
Well it's more than even that. I don't feel like I get to be myself around her. The things that she does, the quirks that she has, that used to be cute, now drive me mad. The jealousy and trust issues are really the least of it. Sometimes being around her makes my skin crawl. Sometimes I ignore her just so she won't come over. Sometimes I find myself wishing I was single again so I didn't have to keep feeling this way. But a few months ago I was so in love, and so happy. How did it all go wrong? The optimist in me wants to save the relationship.
That's called "rose-coloured glasses", otherwise known as infatuation. I don't know how long you two have been together, but it's not uncommon for people's "true colours" so-to-speak to show after a while, could be as long as a few years. That's the one piece of advice I'll remember from my otherwise-silly religion teacher: don't get married to anyone until you've been with them for a couple of years at least! Anyways, it's natural to come down off the high a little bit as people settle into a relationship. But if you're going from happiness all the way to misery, there's a problem there. If you wanted you could examine every possible aspect as to why the relationship is going wrong, whether it's your or her or the rotation of the Earth... but the bottom line is: you aren't happy. Everything you're typing is indicating that you really don't enjoy being with her. Life is too short to stick with someone who's making you unhappy. I don't think the question is "what does all this mean?" anymore, but rather "how should I end the relationship?" (at least if it were me, that's the question I'd be asking myself)
Been together for 7 months. Been thinking of how I could get out of this for 3 months. I don't want to hurt her. But I want out.
Speaking from experience with a controlling girlfriend, there comes a time where the drama isn't worth it anymore. I reached that point with my ex and that's when I decided it was time to move on. If you don't get excited to spend time with that person and you start to dread seeing them, it's time to let go of them.
I would suggest breaking up with her in a public setting. My former roommate who I hated had a clingy girlfriend with severe attachment issues everything was about him and centered around him and when he finally dumped her she bit him literally. She than ran away and he called the police on her so yeah do it in a public setting.