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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by AnomynousMan, Nov 29, 2012.

  1. AnomynousMan

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    :confused:when you were like 16, how did girls make you feel emotionally and sexually and how did guys?:help:
     
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    I strongly connected with girls emotionally but there was no sexual attraction at all. It seemed the opposite with guys, but that's now changing because I have some emotional connections as well.

    How do they make you feel?
     
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    I acted like I was attracted to girls when I was 16, and I tried desperately to get girlfriends so I wouldn't seem gay, but I wasn't really interested. Girls were easier to approach, generally, and could relate better, provide better confidence and advice. Guys, on the other hand... were objects of my sexual desire, which only could be manifested in porn.
     
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    Let's see...at 16 I had no sexual attraction to girls whatsoever. As for emotional connections, the majority of my friends were girls.
     
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    I have strong emotional connections o girls and I love them sexually. With guys, on the internet, I like them sexually like just in porn (back before I stopped watching that filth) But at school, I'll get nervous because I have HOCD, and if a girl is attractive, I don't real have the guts to talk to her without my Zoloft. I love girls on the internet, too. My thread is in "Anonymous threads" section, it's entitled "I'm soooooooooo confused"
     
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    I looked at the thread and I agree with what they're saying. It appears that you are bisexual (sexually attracted to both genders) and hetero-romantic (only romantically attracted to females).
     
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    They were both just...people. I felt no true physical or emotional pull towards either group. This doesn't mean I wasn't horny - I was. Very. :slight_smile: But it was strangely...non-directional. I wanted to have sex, I just didn't seem to want to have sex WITH anybody.

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  8. Same as with Jonathan--100% interest in boys, although I enjoyed hanging out with girls as just friends more.
     
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    I've always been interested in guys sexually, even back in elementary school that's who I was attracted to. In high school I mostly had female friends. Now at age 25 I only have male ones.
     
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    I had a GF in high school, but I never had sex with her, she was more to show the other guys that I was "normal", My first encounter was with an elderly man, which I had immense guilt afterwards, even though I knew inside I was gay, I was not gonna advertise that to anyone.
     
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    At 16? I formed friendships with females much easier than males, but thought their vaginas were icky.
    I didn't know how to talk to guys because I was too busy trying to hide my boner.
     
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    I was emotionally attracted to girls, but I was only sexually attracted to guys.
     
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    I used to be attracted to guys but I used to pretend I wasn't. I used to kiss girls to prove I wasn't gay but I never enjoyed it. I enjoyed hanging out with guys much more than girls, still do now.
     
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    same for some of the others. I feel more emotionally connected to girls but not sexually. In fact i find it 10 times easier making connections with girls for some reason.
     
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    For me, 16 was the beginning of the cross-over period from liking girls to liking guys. I started out wanting intimate but non-sexual relationships with girls, and was at the time, completely head over heels for a girl in my class. That crush in fact lasted four years - and probably would have continued if I'd turned out straight. While still being romantically interested in girls, at 16 I was beginning to acknowledge sexual desires, which were strictly for guys. The desire for intimacy transferred from girls to guys over the next year or two.

    I didn't realise so many people felt similarly...
     
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    Never had a crush on a girl cuz I'm 100% gay and always knew it since the 5th grade. My first crush was in 5th grade and it was toward another boy. It felt totally natural and I didn't know what was sex or whatnot but I knew it was a crush later on when I knew what these things meant. It was fun and natural, no societal pressures or bullsh*t because these things weren't programmed into me yet.

    It wasn't until the 7th grade I had a major crush on another boy. It was soooo intense. I couldn't even get near him without almost passing out. My teachers knew and didn't help me. Probably thought it was funny there was a little f*g in their class...

    Society stated this was bad, nasty, evil, blah, blah and thus I went off the deep end into craziness and thoughts of suicide etc... It's really sad now that I look back and had no help and was soooo paranoid people would find out... total torture thinking back and it took it's toll on me later in life.. By 16 I had a different crush but it was the same as when I felt in middle school. So it was a emotionally tortured existance for sure...

    hope this helps answer your question...
     
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    I'm 16, and girls absolutely don't interest me at all, at the moment anyways? Right now I love guys, I want to be with a guy, I want to kiss guys and all that, but just a few weeks ago I was questioning, maybe I'm Bi? There are definitely girls who are cute, but they don't really get me hard, I think I'm just scared of being treated differently, I don't know I'm dumb ignore me.:eusa_doh:
     
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    When I was 16, I was completely attracted to men physically. I had/have more friends that are girls, but I couldn't/can't get too emotionally attached to them for some reason. The main difference between 16-year-old me and 22-year-old me is that the emotional connection for guys back when I was 16 didn't exist. I was so emotionally cut off from everything and everyone back then that it was just a physical thing. It wasn't until I grew up and matured that the emotional attachment for guys started to kick in (and boy, did it kick in...).
     
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    Sexually, I only explored that side of myself online through porn, looking at a mix of both straight and gay stuff. So in person I didn't think of girls in that way, since I assumed I was straight or straight-leaning bisexual depending on the time, and I must've been in denial since I don't remember thinking of any guys in that way at the time.

    Emotionally, I've long suspected I could get on with girls well but I've rarely had the opportunity to really get to know any. Around this time, there was an exception but due to my inexperience in socialising with girls and the fact we had shared interests, which was rare for me to find in another person male or female, led me to develop a 'crush' on her not knowing any better. But generally, with both sexes, I never really met anyone I truly clicked with and felt awkward around most of my peers, even school friends and acquaintances. With guys, at the time, I didn't think anything of it but with girls I guess I felt there's a presumed 'sexual tension' since "guys like girls, girls like guys" seemed like an unwritten rule.

    Not sure if that makes any sense or if it helps, but I think those experiences helped in contributing to my confusion which finally came about last year after I'd finished two years of school.
     
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    from like 12-17 I was sexually attracted to guys, through gay porn never watched straight porn, and I was pretty much aromantic. Emotionally I was basically indifferent to pretty much everyone during about the same time and probably even before considering my lack of any real friendships though I did stay in contact (and still am) with two girls from primary school but we have become closer friends over the years rather than being really close in Primary school, for me at least, one goes to my uni so we see each other a bit because of that.

    17 I had my first real crush on a guy (and only if you don't count an actor and character since, yeah I'm not good with this stuff :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:) and the group that I ended up spending the rest of my high school time with formed who I still see the members of in differing amounts.

    So to answer your question before 17 girls and guys didn't do anything for me emotionally, and only guys did sexually, after that guys did both emotionally and sexually. Friendship wise any emotional connection took a while to develop too. I may be slightly emotionally stunted.