I've always been attracted to guys, but now I'm starting to think I'm attracted to girls as well. I started a thread on this about a week ago if anyone wants to read it: http://emptyclosets.com/forum/support-advice/75956-wanting-bisexual.html I'm just wondering if this sexual attraction will surface gradually...I almost feel like a kid again, lol. Like I can think/say "Wow, she's hot" but I can only fantasize about kissing, holding hands, etc. and thinking about actual sex with a women is kind of...weird. Almost like I'm not quite ready to think about it. I don't want my brain to go too fast. I say that I feel like a kid again because it's like when one first starts noticing, say, boys around puberty, and finding some cute without automatically thinking of sex but still being attracted to them. Sex with females has crossed my mind, though. It doesn't completely gross me out or anything...I guess it's kind of like I feel guilty thinking about it, even though I know it's not wrong. I enjoy thinking about it. It appeals to me. I think I may just be getting used to having these thoughts. I've always thought I was straight, but maybe I was in denial because when I wondered about sexuality in general, I always assumed I would have known by now if I liked girls. It's almost like I thought I shouldn't even think about girls like that. Actually, it was scary to think about. Overall, I'm just wondering if anyone else experienced this, and if sexual attraction perhaps increases as I get used to the idea of liking women/accepting this, or if perhaps it's related to me being generally more attracted to males. I hope this makes sense...sorry if it doesn't, it's 1:40 in the morning over here and I should be sleeping. Feel free to ask for clarification.
idk, i began to notice girls and not notice them same time. i mean i can look back and see i had kinda mild to moderate crushes on them, drawing pretty movie stars, and making them really hot looking, so much the guys want me to draw them for them, and i did. i know in fantasy life, when i began to try to imagine me with a guy, it flipped and i became the boy and the boy became a very cute girl...and i as a boy kissed her, and enjoyed it. as you said times goes on. by the time i was 21, i was thinking of sex, but i was a young man with a woman, i was fucking her, and i liked it a lot. i never thought of lesbian stuff, or gay stuff, but i was told gay is bad so it coulda hindered my progress, idk. but after i recently started to come out as transgender, i began really flirting with girls...i mean real life, in classroom and online. results are i got a girl wanting to date me, and cuz of her being a smoker and other factors i kindly told her we should not get together at least not until we are both stable. but i feel amazing, and i thanked her for saying kind stuff about me. to be loved for who i am, my personality, and my gender not be in my way is fantastic! i am feeling closer to who i am, and ready to find a girl to date. but hold on...after i accepted i am a guy and began to be happy being a Queer, um...I had to ask why a few gay men and me have a slight pull to each other, like them talking for hours, calling my a cutie, asking me to be a partner in a dance routine, and more. and why do i feel flattered not scared, and notice i can get turned on by both straight AND gay porn? hmmm... yeah, it maybe needs developing, maybe needs time to mature, maybe we should not sweat it what gender we are drawn to as much as the quality of the human being themselves, right? i bet the best sexual experiences are ones with a true friend who you love...
well , when i think of having sex with a girl , it doesn't gross me out , it actually turns me on kind of. i thought i was always straight but then my freshman year , i developed a crush on this girl Katie , at first i denied it because i didn't think i liked her but it only got stronger so then i started questioning my sexuality and as i was , i started to remember certain girls ...and i specifically remembered Rosalyn , a girl in my middle school...and i remember having those 'butterflies' around her and ...now that i look back on all my questioning and actually i still am....but i think maybe deep down i know the answer but i'm just avoiding it or not accepting it , just like everyone told me be true to yourself and don't let it take over you because questioning my sexuality drove me insane until i met a special someone who is online but without her , i don't think i wouldn't have seen what i see now. i would like to be with a girl. the thought it makes me happy....to be able to hold a girls hand and love her endlessly ..and care for her...i think it's the best thing on my mind today...
Yes, the person themself (if that's even a word, 'themselves' didn't sound right) is the most important thing when it comes to loving someone/being attracted. I just realized that I've actually always wondered why someone may fall in love with someone of the opposite sex but not necessarily with someone of the same sex, even if they (platonically) love the person of the same sex. It seemed to me that this implies that sex was a determining part of a relationship, I guess, and I always thought that was kind of confusing why sex should be such a big deal. Of course there's nothing wrong with being attracted to one sex, but maybe I just never applied the idea of loving either sex to myself, and now that I am I am realizing what my sexuality actually is. It's kind of difficult for me to think about having sex with a woman without having some kind of emotional connection with her, and I notice less girls than guys but it's still there. The more I think about it, the more it seems that there were "signs" of me being bisexual in the past...I just never realized it until now, and they were probably repressed or mostly unnoticed because of living in a heteronormative society. I've always believed that being gay or bi is okay and beautiful, but I never thought it'd be me because it's too scary to have to face harsh society... Okay, sorry that's kind of like a journal entry, but thanks for replying. It did help. ---------- Post added 3rd Dec 2012 at 11:24 PM ---------- I also feel like I avoided questioning my sexuality a few months ago, when I just assumed I was straight because if not I'd know by now. That's what I always said, but I guess deep down I doubted it. I've actually never had a crush on a girl I knew, at least as far as I know...but I've had crushes on female celebrities and still do :lol: But when I think "They're just celebrities, I probably just admire them because I'm straight" I get kind of sad thinking that I can't/shouldn't like girls. :icon_sad: It doesn't quite feel right to call myself straight. I think if I stop obsessing then I will comes to terms with this and know what feels right. And thanks for the reply, I identify with what you said. Glad to know I'm not alone.
I am working heard on this attraction I have to males ,and starting a new lifestyle. I have had sex with females . Trying to fit in with being normal. And have enjoyed it . I find myself confused over it . But it's nice to know I'm not the only one
