I should have been done questioning a while ago, but there is one thing holding me back. That one thing is exactly how far you have to go to know your sexuality. I have come to the realization that I am: Physically attracted to men; Physically attracted to women; Attracted to women slightly more on average; I am possibly incapable of romantic feelings for either gender; My levels of attraction for each gender vary over time; and a few other less important things that all lead me to think I am bisexual. Now I have found lots of places on the internet that say "you have to get in a relationship" or "you have to have sex with both genders" before you know your orientation for sure. Since I don't really have romantic feelings for anyone, and since I'm in high school; I haven't done either, I don't want to do the first, and I can't very easily do the second. So do I have enough information to know whether I am the aromantic Kinsey scale 2 bisexual I think I am, or not?
I've only kissed a girl before and that was when I was pretty young, before I had even considered sexual orientation. It was just... Boring. If you're physically attracted to men AND women, and you can honestly say that you are indeed attracted to women, not clinging onto denial, then you're definitely bisexual. Sexual orientation is merely physical attraction. All the best.
From what I've seen with questioning friends and acquaintances, actually going into relationships or sex only proved what they knew already in the first place. Plus, they're best enjoyed when it's what YOU want, and not when you're using them as a tool to prove a point. So I think you have all of the data you need. If you feel like "yeah, I can totally live with being an aromantic bisexual!", then my best advice is: "go for it!"
I know I'm gay but I'm still a virgin and single... How did I know that I'm gay? I don't know how to explain it but I just know deep in my gut that I am(And the fact that I cringe when I watched lesbian porn)... From what I read, if you're attracted to a guy and a girl no matter how strong or weak it is then I think you're bi.
I don't think you have to go anywhere to know what you like and don't like I knew I likes girls, though I was questioning if I liked guys or not I then kissed a guy and I was like, umm that was nice, much more then girls romanticly attracted to guys and physically to both, so yeah bi also, never dated and a virgin >.> though that's for a different reason so yeah, just have to know oneself, though helps to have some experiences to help point you in the right direction
I've never done anything beyond some very chaste kissing with a girl, but I know that I don't want to ever have sex with a woman. I don't think you need to be in a relationship or have sex with both genders to know your orientation for sure. If that were the case, then I have a lot of straight friends who shouldn't be certain that they are straight. At the end of the day, only you will be able to say what your orientation is. Forcing yourself to try out both genders, when you don't want to, will at best just confirm what you already know. At worse it could make you question even more as you won't really want to do whatever you do.
Thanks guys for helping me understand my thoughts Now I think I can accept who I am and move on to coming out to others.
