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Please help. Am I bisexual?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by AnomynousMan, Dec 16, 2012.

  1. AnomynousMan

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    I am a 16 year-old guy and I have crushes on girls and I'm not sure if I have on guys. I mean, I've had very minute feelings for some guys. Nothing that significant, just i little tingle and that's it, but with girls, I get bigger crushes. I get this tickling sensation in my stomach and I really want to hold her and be with her hold her hand and make out with her. When it comes to masturbating, I can do it to both genders, but with women, it's steady. My attraction to them does not fluxuate but with guys, One day I can do it very fast and another day, really slow. The thing is, when I even think about going to a gay porn site, I have the feeling like I'm excited that I'm about to do something different and wrong, which get me off, but with lesbian porn, it's just the sex., hell, even with gay porn, I turned around and didn't watch it, and I got off just as fast as if I was actually watching it. Another thing is smell. When I'm around some girls, their smell gets me hard but this doesn't happen with guys. I have a crush on a girl right now and we're really good friends. I was telling her about some one I had a crush on a couple years back and I realized I was falling for her. Am I gay? Am I bi? Am I closer to straight or closer to gay? I f you feel you absolutely have to say I'm bi-curious (please don't, btw) would you say I'll end up straight, bi, or gay?
     
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    Based solely on your post, I'd say "straight with some bi tendencies". They don't seem too pronounced right now, so I wouldn't worry about it too much. I wouldn't feel the need to tell the world you're bisexual. Just keep fantasizing about whatever you feel like fantasizing about. It'll all sort itself out in time. Maybe you'll move more into an exclusively straight mindset. Or perhaps guys will be an occasional "excitement" fantasy for you. Or perhaps you'll end up feeling more bisexual. Time will tell.

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    Hmm. I think Lexington got it right. It sounds like you're mostly straight, despite the occasional gay porn session. Until you'd seriously consider either going on a real date with a guy or being physically intimate with one, it's safe enough to avoid switching labels so readily.
     
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    You sound like a Kinsey 1 to me. Its the kinsey chart of heterosexual-homosexual rating scale.
     
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    i'm familiar with the kinsey scale