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I think I am a lesbian but something is holding me back.

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by always true, Dec 19, 2012.

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  1. always true

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    Hi!
    My name is Rebecca. I am so confused. I have always liked girls, since elementary. I have had dreams, fantasies, and crushes.

    I have also had crushes on guys growing up, but I don't know if that is because I thought I had to. I had really strong feelings for guy maybe because he was my first. I have never been in a relationship before. I have had sex with two guys. I didn't like it. I sometimes think I only did it was because I was finally getting some attention from someone. I don't really get men and they kind of annoy me.

    I have always been so close to women. I always check out women. When I picture myself cuddled up on the couch, it is with a women.

    I have been a tomboy since day one. Hate dresses. Basketball short always. I am simple and like simple things.

    I feel like I am talking myself into being gay.


    WHAT DO YALL THINK?
     
    #1 always true, Dec 19, 2012
  2. Thieves

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    Hi, Rebecca, welcome to the forums! :slight_smile: (*hug*)

    Well, to start off, I would urge you that more than anything try not to feel like you must figure this out as soon as possible (or else). I know it's hard to do since it's your sexuality and it's really easy to want answers right now, but the fact is it's probably going to take a little while until you get any real answers about this. Figuring out your sexuality can be a gradual process for some people, and unfortunately none of us here can give you concrete answers because we're all different.

    Buuuut... from what you've said so far, I do think that it's possible that you're a lesbian. I'm also in the middle of figuring out what I am, and I can relate to having guy crushes when I was younger but not knowing if it was because I actually liked them or because I was just going along with my friends. :confused: I talked about this before in another thread, but I think one big clue to think about is how you act around men. When men want to get close to you in a sexual or romantic way, how do you react? Do you avoid it? Do you get nervous? What is it about men that annoy you?
     
    #2 Thieves, Dec 19, 2012
  3. ameliawesome

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    i agree with Thieves ^ there's no rush, but your story sounds similar to mine, and i know that i am not at all interested in a romantic relationship with a man.
     
    #3 ameliawesome, Dec 19, 2012
  4. always true

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    Thanks for replying! Umm Thieves. I am just awkward around men. They are persistent and keep, so I finally give in. The first time, I was curious about what all the hype was about. The second time I literally just waited for him to get off of me.

    The annoy me because they are just rude, cocky, and disrespectful. They are just gross. Ugh.

    I am worried that when I finally get with a women I won't know what to do.
    haha.

    I am out to most of my friends, some cousins, and a aunt.
    All my friends are straight so they don't what I am going through.
    I don't know who to talk to.
     
    #4 always true, Dec 19, 2012
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    I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way lol

    Right now I'm 100% exclusively attracted to women sexually and strongly prefer women romantically and may have always been this way, but I did have a big crush on a guy in 8th grade so sometimes I wonder if I'm bi... but I'm not attracted to men at this time and I never thought of him sexually... it was just like puppy love... Nobody believes me though and they think I was in love with him lol
     
    #5 myheartincheck, Dec 19, 2012
  6. toboymi

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    You don't know how I relate to this post. I'm basically struggling with it.
    Sometimes I think I'm totally lesbian, sometimes I feel I'm only curious.
    I don't like the way men behave but i've never been with a girl before.
    I'm really nervous and I don't see a way out of this uncertainty.
    Hope you figure it out. X
     
    #6 toboymi, Dec 19, 2012
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    haha doesn't it blow your mind how somebody can try to tell you a story about your own life? hahaha it's funny, but also frustrating, right? ultimately it doesn't matter, though. but ugh, lol.
     
    #7 ameliawesome, Dec 19, 2012
  8. always true

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    Omg you guys don't understand how happy it makes me to have someone to relate to and that to about these things.

    ---------- Post added 20th Dec 2012 at 04:21 AM ----------

    *someone to talk to about these things
     
    #8 always true, Dec 20, 2012
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