Hello there, so as the title says I'm a confused male, for about 3 months i've been questioning myself. I guess it all started when I got dumped by my girlfriend (we are now back together) it hurt me a lot and I started questioning myself if I was gay I don't know the particulars of why I started asking myself but there you go. I've slept with 10 women, enjoyed it it felt right, it felt good I always enjoyed being romantic towards women. And even been in love with one (my current) by i feel as of late as I'm questioning myself that love has been put on standby I feel incredibly guilty like I'm lying to her. Until now never felt that men even existed in a sexual way random thoughts of men pop into my head and can't figure out if i like them or not. Now I don't think I could bring myself to sleep with a male I still sleep with my girlfriend, enjoy it but still have this burning question nagging me in the back of my head. I've tried to look at gay porn, don't exactly know how I felt about it it felt strange. When i'm with my girlfriend it feels right, I don't feel disgusted or turned off being with her. Kissing, holding hands being with her turns me on, we have really good passionate sex also. But since this has happened I can't fully invest myself in it, I don't know what to think. So can anybody help me? It would be great! :icon_bigg
First of all welcome! This is a safe place to question. What really helped me when I started questioning is imagining who i could see myself with in a long term relationship. It seems like you are already doing this a little. Keep asking yourself these questions and it's ok you don't have to give yourself a label yet like "gay" or "bisexual." It does seem like you are more interested in women so I'd say you might be bisexual or curious. Have you heard of the kinsley scale? You might be a 1 or 2 on the scale. I am about a five and I don't identify as bisexual.
From what you're saying, I think you're probably just putting things in your head. If you can't imagine yourself being with a guy sexually and doing things with him as you would with your girlfriend, then I doubt you're truly gay. I'd say you could go experiment to see how you feel; but don't do it now since you're currently in a relationship. Other than that I'm not sure what else to say, but going off of what you said you seem pretty straight to me.
What these guys said! ^ I'd say if you really are curious it may not hurt to go out with a guy, not necessarily sleep with him, just to see if the spark is there or not. Couldnt hurt.
Thanks guys, I am aware that I may be putting thoughts into my head. I am the worrying type. I'm kind of scared of experimenting as I live in a close nit community. I'm pretty sure it would shock a lot of people! Plus i'd never cheat! I'm just going to soul search and find myself. I appreciate the help a lot
