I didn't post this in the coming out stories because out us something I am having difficulty with. So basically I for all intents and purpose am out of the closet (a vernacular I despise) the only people I haven't told is my parents and bro, telling my bro is telling my parents he can't keep a secret to save his life. my folks used to tell me that is was wrong and deviant and perverse, up until recent they were very condensing with regard to homosexuality. As a boy they told me it was as wrong as murder. They are catholic, really so am I, sort of. I have made a stand in regards my political opinions regarding gay marriage. And reaffirmed it repeatedle. The snide remarks have stopped. My big issue is that I am bisexual and my experience when coming out is that monosexuals attempt to talk me into being either straight or gay, I imaging because they don't get it. They dirty of caught me with a boy when i was younger, not in the act, but close. I Mean two 14 year old boys sitting really close with their pants pulled down kind of sends a signal but it was ignored. And your son getting caught looking at gay porn at 17 years old sends another signal especially when he says he thinks he is gay. But denial can be am ugly thing. I pretty much go back and forth between the genders, nit really on purpose but that is how it happens organicly. They know about the girls just not about the guys.
Hmm, do you want them to know, or do you want to wait with telling them until you are financially independent? Are you financially dependent? It sounds like this could become very problematic for them, and that they might need time to adjust, after you tell them. Considering their opinions on it being so wrong, was very strong in the past. They still could grow to accept you for the wonderful person you are though, but I have a feeling it will take some time. Do they talk negatively about gay people when you are around?
I agree with the above poster... If financial dependency is an issue, than you might want to wait... As far as people not understanding bisexuality... It is just because it is something they don't really have an experience with. I have ALOT of friends who are bisexual, and they get that "they just need to choose" quite a bit. The only advice that I can give is to hold your head up high. They only believe that because of a lack of experience with the subject. Good Luck with whatever you decide!!! Remember, KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!! :icon_bigg
I am capable of being financially independent they are sort of dependent on me for mobility and assistance. But I just don't want them to hate me for it.
They cannot possibly hate you for it. Not really. Why would they? If you take care of them, help them out, then you are a god son, and should take pride in that. What you do in your bedroom does not lower the quality of the help you give them or how much you care about how they feel. Sounds to me like you are a decent and nice guy, who really deserve a life of his own. You deserve love, happiness and contentment, just like every other guy. Don`t give up on your happiness, just because you are worried about someone else thinking less of you. If they really love you, they could never hate you.
