I just need some quick opinions--if I'm planning to break up with my girlfriend after the holidays, I told her I'm giving family priority over friends during the break, and I don't want to do anything out of pity or sympathy (her parents are going through the beginnings of a divorce), is it okay for me to not talk to her except maybe a "Merry Christmas" message? I've pretty much been ignoring her and not replying to her messages anyway except every so often. What should I do?? Do I basically have to choose between what I need verses what she needs? She doesn't really have many other good friends to help her through it, but I don't see how I'd be helping her if I'm just going to break up the next time I see her anyway...:help:
I can't tell you what to ultimately do, as that's between you and her, but the one thing I would suggest is not to string her along and not pay attention to her. If she's under the impression that she's in a relationship, then days of silence with only a "merry christmas" text isn't really fair, for her or for you - it basically just dodges the issue at hand. If the reality of the situation has changed, then a conversation about that might be in order.
