my dad hit me last night hes sorry but i dont forgive him

You probably will forgive him, someday, but for the time being even if you DID say something to rile him up, it doesn't excuse him throwing the first punch.

However, it does seem that as this is the first time, there must be some serious underlying issue - you don't just turn violent, even when drunk, unless something sets you off.

When you're in a place to talk to him again(most certainly after he properly apologises), while he's sober, you need to try and find out what caused these events.

 

He's a parent, he had no right to hit you, but Are you okay?

 

(*hug*)

Just take it easy. R.I.C.E. Rest Ice Compression Elevation. If you wanna vent some more feel free to, but I'd just avoid him and let things settle for now

 

I'm sorry this happened to you. What the hell is wrong with people these days beating up their own children without provocation?! I admire you for staying calm and not shouting at him (I would have done so ). Perhaps you should consider moving out if you can, you never know if he will just snap and do worse next time.

 

3 beers? dude you maybe not sober even if you think so.
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You have got to get out of that house. While I'm not entirely against very minor physical discipline to stop an out-of-control child (but even that's debatable), actually hitting your child to inflict injury is disgusting. He has no right to do that, and I don't even fully understand why he did it. Why did he come at you because of a sex scene on TV? The fact that he hit you again when you came back downstairs just further proves that he's in the wrong. If he had just lost his temper, there would be at least some small redeeming value to what he'd done, but he doesn't even have that.

You need to seriously consider moving out. I know it seems intimidating, but at your age you can handle it (assuming you really are 20). It is never right under any circumstances for a parent to be so violent, and though you may forgive him someday, you have to think about right now. You do not deserve to be hit by someone, and being drunk is no excuse. If he's violent when he's drunk, it's on him to not get drunk in the first place, not you to forgive him for his actions.

 

Hmm.. I should not add my opinion to this, because I have a strict not forgive physical punishment stuff, because of issues with my own father.

What I will say though, is that I understand it must feel terrible, to go through this, only to be told by your sister and your mother that this was partly your fault. I can understand how that would devastate you. For what it is worth, nothing a person says is excuse enough for someone who claims they love him/her to throw a punch. He could have chosen to talk back! He could have chosen to leave the room. He could have done a lot of things, without hitting you. He chose to make it physical, that was his choice, his fault, not yours! So don`t let them make you feel guilty. Whatever you said, IF you said something, is not cause for him puncing you! That was not right! He is the parent, not you. He is the one responsible for this. He chose to drink. He chose to punch you.

This is NOT your fault!

*Hugs!*

 

Sorry to hear this. Regardless of what is said, never a reason to lay hands on someone.

I'm glad you defended yourself, when things cool down you should speak with him and tell him this was and is and always will be totally unacceptable.

 

I wouldn't forgive him either, violence is wrong, especially from a parent. You shouldn't make excuses for him either, it doesn't matter what you did, he hasn't got the right to hit you. My advice would be to get as far away from him as possible

 

forgiveness is a good thing.
but money or...in my case mom gave me dolls...is not the way either.
he needs to man up and instead of you both reaching for the bottle, talk abt this big thing that is making him hurt and hurt you and destroy his family.
Christmas is the best time to show love....you be the adult here...take card with you, sit down, say money won't heal your broken heart you love him and want him to love you...then tell him this won't happen again, we are talking about it. then do.

 

Your dad obviously regrets what he did, but that doesn't mean you can just take the money, forgive him, and leave things as they are. Abusive alcoholics often follow the pattern you describe, do something terrible in anger, then try to superficially apologize with gifts. What you must understand is that he likely learned this from his father, so when he gives you a gift, he is reaching out to you. What you have to do in this situation is take this as an opportunity to talk, father to son. You have to break the cycle of accepting gifts as an apology, and figure out the root issue together. He obviously feels bad, he just doesn't know how to appropriately express it. So you should try and take the initiative, and when he's sober, say "Dad, I want to talk to you about what happened.". Make the conversation a calm, non-accusatory one, you want it to be constructive. Hope it goes well!