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can i be gay

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by johnjorgell, Dec 25, 2012.

  1. johnjorgell

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    If I have had girlfriends whom I fell in love with and enjoyed sexual acts with but also enjoy oral with guys can I be gay.
     
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    I would say that would be more bisexual than gay since you still enjoy sex and being in a relationship with a female, at least going by what you've said.
     
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    I think you're bisexual, do you like both sexes in the same way?
    Actually there's a Kinsey scale for bisexual.
    Hetero 0/6 Homo
     
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    thats the only way i find guys attractive not in any other way i would love to be with a girl but since ive been obsessing everything is a blur. but i enjoy girls more than guys im just sooo scared that one day il wake up and like guys more is that possible
     
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    There are a lot of subcategories of sexual orientation. You could always just call yourself straight, or bi if looking to pick up a guy and tell him you like to give head. :wink:
     
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    but is it possiblefor me to end up gay
     
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    Heh, while some would argue their sexuality is dynamic, usually it does settle down somewhere. Who knows? You might find yourself interested in more, but at that point you can change your label. There's no need to fit yourself into one, either; labels are for us to use for clarity in description.
     
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    Agreed. It does usually settle on something particular even if it is "bi leaning toward guys"
    Your sexuality depends on what you end up liking the most. And if you stick solely to that gender or the other gender or the middle. Sexuality is fluid but you will usually know what you like.
     
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    To answer your question directly, It is possible for you to end up gay.

    From what you posted though, It doesn't not sound like you are 100% homosexual at all.
     
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    Why are you asking other people? Yeah it's possible, but just ask yourself; do I find both men and women attractive, or just men?

    Only you can answer that.