Does being out to 2 people still mean I'm in the closet?

I don't get the question - you're in the closet to everyone else other than those 2 people....

So maybe the closet door is a little open??

 

Yes and no you have your foot out of the closet. anyways, congratulations on coming out to them!!!

 

You're peeking out the closet but still in there

 

I'd say the door is a little open, but you are still all the way in.

I've wondered the same before, good question.

 

So if to be out of the closet do you have to be out to everyone?

 

I'd say that to be out the closet you wouldn't be denying it, but it doesn't necessarily mean you go round telling everyone? Idk.

 

The term the 'closet' comes from secrets, skeletons that we hide in the hidden depths of our 'closets'. You are only in the closet as much as you want to be. As long as you hide who you are from the world. If it were about numbers then we would techically always be in the closets because everyone will never know.(Or care quite frankly).

You dont have to shout it from the rooftops, just stop hiding yourself. Once you feel legitimately free, then your out.

 

I feel like being out of the closet is two pronged. One involves coming out to yourself, while the other involves an initial coming out and new attitude. Coming out is a process that never ends, so "out of the closet" is sort of a silly way to put things, but we all use the phrase and it's understood what is meant based on context. I consider someone out if they have come out to themselves and some others, and do not have the intention of returning to the closet.

 

I don't really know what to think about this. In one way I don't think we are really ever completely done coming out, it is an on going process, that I suspect will continue our whole lives. On the other hand I am not sure that it is necessary to come out to every single person we encounter. Family, close friends, co-workers, yeah, I think they should know, because it is a big part of who we are. For others thought, unless there is a situational reason for them to know, I tend to think it is really none of their business.

But back to the original question: Are you out or still in the closet? To those two people you are definitely out, and even if you don't plan to tell anyone else right now, you must be comfortable with opening the door just a little. So, congratulations on getting this far. Continue the journey as you see fit.

 

You may have a few toes out of the closet haha, but the majority of you is still in there.