how gay must you be to be gay

I find some girls attractive but I don't really feel anything but when I see a guy who I think is hot or cute and of course there's other feelings mixed in there I get that unexplained feeling of true attraction towards that guy. You should think of what you're attracted to and how you would feel about a person whether it's a man or a woman in an intimate way and then you should find some clarity as to whether you're lesbian, straight or bi at least that's might advice, good luck and remember nothing is concrete until you're sure

 

I'm gay. Like, really gay. Like, women are my thing and I am totally gaga over my gorgeous, woman shaped girlfriend.

My celebrity crush? Chris Hemsworth. The type of erotica stories I enjoy reading? Gay men. The fictional characters I get little fantasies about? 75% male.

Am I any less gay? Fuck no! I'm as gay as they get!

Would I like to sleep with a real man? No. Not at all. Would I be happy in a relationship with a man? No, I'd be miserable.

I had the same compunctions for a long time, sweetie. No, I'm not bisexual. I'm a full blown lesbian who swoons over Chris Hemworth. (It's just his voice. And the way he acts with his baby daughter. And... Well, I don't know, I like him. He'sspecial.)

And that's okay. We're not any less gay because some men pose a passing fancy. I promise. And since I'm in the same boat, and I have no plans of identifying as any less of a lesbian any time soon, you can trust me.

 

Hi

I agree with the two previous posts. I'm gay, no doubt about it. I get off to gay porn, if I see a cute guy I start drooling (not literally, I hasten to add) etc. But I also find some women attractive, in a purely 'she's pretty' way. Do I want a relationship with those women? Not a chance. I suppose it makes me slightly less than 100% gay, so I'd say I'm a Kinsey 5 instead of 6. But I'm definately not 'bi enough' to identify as bi.

Hope that makes sense...

 

He's right.
I feel sexually attracted to men... It doesn't happen ALL the time, but it's not uncommon for me. From 1 to 10, I'd be 7-8...
The thing is I don't think I could have a fulfilling relationship with a man. Do you think you could??? 'Cus ultimately it's bad who you can fall in love with.
So, yeah... I'm not 'bi' anough to call myself a bisexual either... not even gay leaning bisexual.

I think if you're Kinsey 2, 3 and 4, you're 'bi'.

 

Here's how I see it: the most immediate use of sexuality labels is succinctly telling the world whom you're willing to have sex and do sexual things with (and date, by extension). When you reduce it down to that, it's often a much less confusing question to answer.

 

Being possibly wrong sometime in the future beats being almost definitely wrong right now.

Besides, would a guy who definitely likes guys in real life, but swoons over all the pop divas from Barbra Streisand to Lady Gaga be "gay enough" to come out I wonder... :rolle: Yes, your situation isn't quite like that, but really gay people of either sex rarely are opposite-sex-hating harridans, that's the silliest stereotype of them all.

 

I think that if you want to identify as being a lesbian, then go for it! Everyone's sexual orientation is different. It is your sexuality, so you should identify however you see fit. I came out about two years ago, and I dated some girls and everything was great. One night I got really drunk and went home with a guy, and for a while I was really upset because I thought that lessened me as a lesbian. After I did some self reflection I realized that a) who cares who I decide to fool around with, it is my body, and b) It really isn't anyone's business. So I think that if you choose to identify as a lesbian, then you should go for it. But if you don't, then you don't have to. Don't feel like your sexuality is wrong, embrace it and be proud of how you're an awesome person!

 

I'm the gayest of the gay but there's still a few chicks I would bang in a heartbeat.