Ok I consider my self 100% gay but for some reason pretty girls have been catching me eye..... Idk what's going on I'm friends with girls and I mean I had a crush on one before but it wasn't like a sexual crush more like I thought she was super sexy.....pretty but when I start to think sexually wise it's like I could never have sex with a girl being that I'm more of a bottom then a top so I'd rather be in her position lol. But why am I finding girls pretty? Is it maybe my brain trying to go with what is appropriate in society or what my parents want? Idk when I see them I think I could marry them but we would be more friends then sexually involved because I could never get a hard on to a girl ever. So what are these feeling of infatuation?? If I'm gay and I don't like girls sexually why do I think they are sexy and could even make out with them? Like what's going on! I'm sorry if this is confusing but I am really confused myself!!!!! :help: I know im gay but I mind fuck myself sometimes an I start questioning "am I really gay" or "have I just convinced myself I'm gay" I have gone as far as t watch straight porn but honestly!! I only look at the men not the woman! So it's like in gay but why do I have feelings towards sexy woman!? UGH what's going on here my brain is hurting now!! I mean if I was bi I'd like girls sexually also as well as men but it's not like That it's like when I see a super stereotypical sexy girl I go OMG she looks like a real Barbie and I want to e friends with her but I did myself checking her out more for like I'm seeing what shape her body is in and things OMG I'm sorry I'm just so confused I'm writing all my feelings I have an things I've done to give examples to you
Wow you sound gay :lol: In a good way, of course. What explains your feelings for pretty girls can be a variety of factors, but it's rather obvious that you ARE facing some of your own mind barriers and that this fact may tint what you feel is your sexual orientation. Let me explain with the example of, well, myself For the longest time I believed that I was the straightest guy ever. If something was clear to me in my life, it was certainly my obvious sexual/romantic attraction towards women. Also, my over-all sexual repulsion to men was always very obvious to me. So that explains my past belief that I was straight. But at some point I was in a gay bar and some sexy, small curvy feminine guy had me aroused and then the process of undoing my mental barrier towards not being straight began. I had to explain to myself why I felt arousal for a type of man, why I never noticed it was in me before, and why it was suddenly so easy for me to fantasize about same-sex experiences. It wasn't easy; you know, society dictating me to be straight, my LGBT friends telling me that I should like only women, and so on... But I went into this and opened my minds with various experiences, some good, some bad, and some delightful ones! That's just how I am, having to live things in order to understand myself. Now I'm a very confident 2 on the Kinsey scale and I believe that I pretty much found out where I stand with my sexual orientation. I believe that once you feel that it's OK to be whoever you are and to feel different levels of attraction towards different people (male or female) you'll finally have gotten rid of your mental blocks and will see things much clearer too. ((as in, it would be completely fine for you to be somewhat attracted to some pretty women, a little bit, even if you never want to have full intercourse with them!!))
Lol this happens to me too. I think it's that moment where I realize I can be a chameleon, and admire their figure, but if I actually think about undressing a girl, I want to throw up lol. I always think it's funny how it's fine to gaze at a woman in public, but I feel like I never want a guy to notice me making eye contact with him. It's sooo tough. I think it does have a lot to do with the "norm" I wish it was just as acceptable to walk up to a guy I find attractive and start talking to him, but that's not our reality in most public places. My other weird thing is that I always open doors for women, I think it's what a gentleman should do gay or straight. In that moment when they pass me, I instantly feel like, "oh shit, I hope she doesn't think i'm interested in her, because I'm not" lol. It's just weird stuff man.
Well I'm definitely gay but I can still appreciate an attractive woman, even though I wouldn't want to have sex with her. I think that's pretty normal, just because you're only attracted to one gender doesn't necessarily mean you're going to be turned off by the other, like when straight women comment on other attractive women (I don't think this happens as much with straight men). If that's all it is its definitely nothing to stress out over.
Ya I think what you all have said is like what it is it's not that I like woman in a sexual way but it's like I see then and some are super sexy and I'm like I kinda want to dress her :O like put clothes on her that I think would look good and shat...... Like I do it with my friends all the time I'm like oh buy this this is hot and it would look great on your body and if I have to I even buy it for them and when I was in school it's not that I would hit in them it's just Iminfatuated by beauty be it men or women but men sexually! Lol and woman...eh not so much. I guess I'm sort of picky with the friends I chose (which is bad) I only usually hang out with really pretty people..... Idk why I do this... Well actaully I do because I was bullied for a long time when I gained weight and I guess after I lost it an focused in my appearance people started to think I was cute and cool so I surrounded myself with these people which they all back stabbed me in the end. But idk something about beauty just gets me going........(not sexually on woman) just it brings me in like wanting to meet them and I give miss communications when I do thy also
Lots of gay men can totally appreciate the aesthetic beauty of a woman. That's why so many gay men are fashion designers and such; many of us have an inherent sense of fashion and style and an understanding of beauty that straight men don't share. But that's different than feeling sexual attraction to women. It sounds like you're in touch with the aesthetic and beauty of a woman, but not feeling any sexual attraction. Which makes you like many, many other gay men
