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is she gone for good? :(

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by MerBear, Dec 29, 2012.

  1. MerBear

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    okay so im re-reading me and my ex's emails and we haven't talked in a week and im assuming its because she busy but now , im starting to think she's gone for good.

    i told her that we'd go our seperate ways soon and that we'd both find someone but i didn't mean now! to god not now. '

    and i re-read her response and it was this

    "If you need to move on, then so be it. Life has its own plans for you and it will be exactly how it should. Nobody wants it, but life is a bitch. Like me I guess."

    i've given her 2 emails since then but she hasn't replied...

    im worried
     
  2. MidnightOwl

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    It's most likely one of a bajillion things. Heh. She is thinking about what you have said and trying to figure out how to respond. And also sending her multiple e-mails may have creeped her out. It's happen with me before. You tend to look desperate, if they haven't responded.
     
  3. MerBear

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    no i sent one the same day because i didn't get to finish then i sent one on Thursday because i was rude in my last email and i wanted to make up for it.

    i mean , i know it seems desperate but she doesn't mind according to her

    its just the way it sounded

    "then so be it" <----- that to me is like a sign
     
  4. MidnightOwl

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    And maybe she has moved on. That will hurt, but as of now I'd wait for her response and not send her any more e-mails.
     
  5. MerBear

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    i won't but if it comes 2 weeks , im going to have to send her an email...straight up asking if she's gone for good...because i mean...thats not fair to me for her to leave without explanation. i'd never do that to her...and not even 2 eeks ago , she said she hasn't gotten over me
     
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    I would give it more than two weeks. lol. As stated you probably look a little bit desperate. Or another explanation is that she may think that you're just trying to say whatever you can to cover your ass.
     
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    maybe...all i want to do is sort things out between us. that's all but i'll give it more than 2 weeks.

    ---------- Post added 29th Dec 2012 at 11:47 PM ----------

    it's funny , i told her ...i was like "i'm just needy and pathetic you know?" and she said
    "you are not pathetic to me okay?"

    but i know i am. she just wont tell me
     
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    I don't think you're pathetic. I just think she's trying to gather her strength as you did. Give her some time and space.
     
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    but i mean i sound desperate and i get that a lot but thank you the advice
     
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    Wait a second, you told her you wanted to break up with her "soon", and was surprised when she was upset and decided to make it now? I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want to be with someone who could foresee ending things in the near future. It's just pointless :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
  11. MerBear

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    no we weren't together in the first place.
    i wanted to be with her but she likes to be close to someone and so i was like

    that's fine , we'll go our seperate ways soon and both find someone.
    i only did that because i thought thats what she wanted to hear
     
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    i think she left though , i hope not but im pretty sure :frowning2:
     
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    Can you only contact her by email?
     
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    yeah , we met online....i know it's really stupid
     
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    Hey its not stupid I just wondered. I know its difficult but you have to try and keep busy and distracted and just give her a bit of time. What did the last email you sent her say?
     
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    it said that we'd go our seperate ways soon and that we'd both find someone. i told her i didn't anyone else but i know we wouldn't work since were 2 stupid 16 year old girls.

    ---------- Post added 30th Dec 2012 at 02:07 PM ----------

    we aren't together by the way
     
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    And you havent emailed her since?

    Why dont you set yourself a date, say 2 weeks or a month from now, by which time if she hasnt replied you send her 1 last email?
    You seem half convinced that she has already gone so until that date lets assume she is gone, you can start dealing with how it will be to move on from her and then in the meantime if she does respond then you can work on it from there.
     
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    i gave her an email a week ago and she hasn't emailed me since ...
    but she hasn't posted too poem on her blog , one on the 24th and one on the 27th , i sent her one of the 25th but the poems is what gets me.

    i know it shouldn't mean anything but ig uess its her words and the way she feels about me

    i'll set the the 2 weeks to a month though
     
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    Do you mean she has posted other stuff but not replied to you?
     
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    she has posted stuff on her blog but hasn't replied to my email