Can I have some opinions and advice! Help me, please?

Now this is not an LGBT question. I just want to hear what people have to say about this so I hope I'm in the right section. If not, I'm sorry. Now first I have to explain so it's story time. It's long so I'm sorry.

Okay, I am 19 years old and am a legal adult. I live in my college dorms, but on breaks I live at my parent's house. My dad is a little bit hard to deal with and is very annoying. He calls me fat all the time (once he even went so far as to say that one day that I was gonna blow up because I was so fat.) He also calls me stupid on a regular basis and always judges me based on what I do or don't do and sometimes he even thinks I did something when I didn't and he judges me. He never listens to me. He never lets me explain things. He tends to think anything I say is gonna be stupid. He doesn't respect me at all. He doesn't clean up after himself at all. He's very lazy. He makes me and my siblings clean up after him usually me. I do his laundry, I clean all the dishes (which are mostly his because he eats all the time and doesn't reuse his plates...), I take care of his animals (I live on a farm), clean the barns, I clean up anything that he throws around the house, etc. He irritates me to no end. I don't mind doing these things, but what irritates me is the fact that I never do them well enough for him. He ALWAYS complains. Just today he wanted me to do all his laundry that he let pile up and he called me from work at 7am. He wanted me to do them right when he woke me up, but I was tired so I slept after he called me. I was gonna do them when I woke back up. I stayed up until 3 because I have insomnia and have to be tired to fall asleep so I was tired. He called me again at 10 to check on me; little did I know he my sister to check with her first and she didn't assume that I was supposed to be doing the laundry when he asked "is Jess doing laundry" (which she should know by now that when he asks a specific thing I'm supposed to be doing it, I lie for her when he checks with me to check on her, but I won't hold it against her it just irritated me.) so he yelled at me and said I couldn't be on my laptop all day (which obviously I didn't listen). I put laundry in the washer, told my sister to tell me when it stops, and I went back to sleep for another hour. When I got up, she texted me that the washer had stopped. Our washer is broken and not working right. It tends to go REALLY SLOW and stops in the middle of the cycle. When I checked it, sure enough it stopped on wash cycle so I restarted it. It stopped another hour later still on wash cycle so I switched it to rinse and spin, had to restart that one twice, and then put it to drain and spin. It took a total of 4 hours to finish washing 1 load of laundry and put it in the dryer. I put another load in and then got to leave to go with a friend to the mall. When I got back from the mall he yelled at me and asked if I did laundry. I told him the truth that I put in two loads, but he said "No, you only did 1; your mom had to finish the other one." Then I tried to explain to him that the washer doesn't work right and it took 4 hours to finish washing it, but he wouldn't let me talk he just kept saying "No!" every other word and I got really irritated. Then I gave up because he never listens anyway. He told me that I am to stand in the laundry room and wait for all the clothes to be done tomorrow the whole time (which I refuse to do). He does things like this all the time. He usually is a lot worse with punishments though; I was lucky tonight. He tries to find reasons to get me in trouble all the time. I'm a legal adult and he shouldn't have any control over me. I shouldn't have to do chores for him. I'll do basic chores since I'm living there like clean up after myself, but I do not want to clean up after other people unless they are sick or something. I really hate cleaning up after people. My dad is old enough to clean up after himself, he has two working legs, and is not crippled or sick in any way. One thing I left out was that if I try to protest or yell back he gets a little violent...he used to be a lot worse, but as I grew up I learned how to talk to him so that he doesn't get violent. I can't stand up for myself against him though.

Now my question is: What do you guys think of this? What are your opinions of this situation? Am I being too selfish or lazy? Am I being too whiny? I want to know which one of us is in the wrong.

I also want any advice you can give me. I want to know how I can get him to respect me and listen to me.

 

Thank you for all your replys

 

I've tried talking to my mom, but she gets treated just as bad as me. I honestly don't know why she hasn't tried to divorce him. She just blocks it out and tells me not to tell anyone how my dad is (which I obviously stopped listening to because I couldn't take it anymore).

I want to move out, but I lost my job and I can't afford to fix my car (doesn't run anymore and it's not the battery). Living at college is perfectly fine with me, but I have to leave on breaks because I have to pay extra to stay on breaks. I rarely come home for weekends, but when I do I tend to go to my first home where I actually feel safe which is my grandparents. I would stay there for break, but I feel like it would hurt my mom's feelings if I did that all the time, and my grandparents are quite poor and I feel guilty because they have to pay for me to eat.

I'm afraid to go to the police because my college parent loan is mostly from my dad because my mom doesn't have a high paying job. I'm afraid that I might not be able to finish college.