Did I lose my "virginity" (nebulous term?) on New Years Eve?

It all depends on who you ask really. If you don't feel you have fully lost it yet(even though virginity really isn't that important anyway), then that's fine.

 

Virginity is an imaginary thing.

All sex is real, valid sex, including the sex you had on New Years.

You've done the things you have done. You haven't done the things you haven't done.

 

Um if you look up virginity it means not being penetrated.... so technically ur still a virgin...

 

Where did you find that definition of virginity?

Here's from the online etymology dictionary, which gives you not only the current usage of a term, but also it's origin and history:

There is nothing in there about penetration.

 

Hi,

I agree, the concept of "virginity" is a false societal construct for putting a physical definition on a emotional state.

To me we are talking "loss of innocence" and that comes in many ways prior to any physical act.

Instead of virginity talk depression... Do you have to be physically crying to be depressed? To me virginity falls into the same boat.

Stuck

 

I found it in the Webster's dictionary.
why cant I be at least a little right?

 

I don't think losing your virginity directly links to penetrative sex. Not all gay men are even into that. So why shouldn't your meaningful sexual experience mean that you're no longer a virgin? It was sex, regardless of how you performed it.

You can be a virgin to anything; flying (on a plane), drinking alcohol, going to nando's or simply just kissing somebody else. Don't worry about the label, like others have said, it's meaningless.

Just appreciate what you've done and don't think too much into it. Regardless of virginity, you've shared a sexual experience with another guy.

 

Nah! That guy just moved from the "trivial many" into the "disturbed" category.

I feel bad for the idiot. What a pathetic position he is in.

Stuck

 

Well,,,

In some children they sow interest and affection by teasing or pulling on girls pigtails.

I sometimes wonder if that translates to aggressive homophobes.

To paraphrase and totally rip off somebody else...

“Woe to the Homophobe, for they are like a dog sleeping in the oxen's manger. The dog does not eat nor does the dog let the oxen eat”

Stuck

 

Your fun at New Years Eve, sounded a bit like my fun in Dublin this year, except I was the taker Lol if that's the word & I was asking the same question, have I lost my virginity, even though Anal Sex never took place, I think the consensus at the time was, I had lost my V Card

 

I like to keep it simple. Guys have wood. Once your wood penetrates someone or their wood does so to you, that's virginity to me lol. But then again, what do I really know. I think the orgasm matters too though. That's really the first time you're seeing someone for who you believe them to be. In those moments after the orgasm, you kind of think clearly about what you're doing and who you're doing it with.. if they're really as special as you thought they were prior to the hook up.

 

Wow... This is kind of an old thread to be bumping dude, you must have been in deep search dublinboy =p!!

For me personally, I think if you haven't been penetrated or penetrated someone you are still a virgin but people see it differently. I don't really think oral sex or handjobs count as losing your "virginity" but that is just my opinion.