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how to meet someone whilest in the closet

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by VyreRain, Jan 4, 2013.

  1. VyreRain

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    Okay I don't really want to comeout to everyone just yet but id still like to meet someone to cuddle with and kiss and all so please advise away.
     
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    Hi,

    I don't think there is a single good answer for that.

    What you may do without hesitation may be impossible for me.

    For example I have never been in a gay bar. I don't dance, too much smoke (in my era), music too loud to talk, I never wanted a one a night stand, so bars do not work for me.

    Every gay friend I ever had was a friend first and the "gay" came out later.

    I believe "gaydar" exists and is a biological process;

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    Human cryptochrome exhibits light-dependent magnetosensitivity

    http://www.nature.com/ncomms/journal/v2/n6/abs/ncomms1364.html
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    This was only recently discovered. Thoughts have a magnetic profile.

    Trust your gaydar.

    Stuck
     
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    What's preventing you from coming out? Is it something that you can work towards?

    It's not that closet relationships don't happen, but think of it this way: it's really hard for a guy to want to be into you if he doesn't know you're 'on the market'. And I think looking for someone while closeted - being inevitably harder - will just dampen your spirits.
     
  4. VyreRain

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    Umm my dads preventing me if I tell him he'll most likely kill me.... and he can he's ex- military. So I'm stuck feeling dead and hoping for someone to save me from my hellish life while trying to do anything I can to earn money to move out.