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I've written a letter to my dad.

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Shiny Espeon, Jan 5, 2013.

  1. Shiny Espeon

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    I had my mom look it over, and it felt kind of awkward. She did assure me, however, that if things do go incredibly wrong, that he'd be the one to leave. So at least I have that.

    But anyways, here's the letter. Please, let me know what you think.

    Dad,
    I have something I need to tell you. But I can't think of the right words to say it. In fact, I don't think I can say it out loud in front of you right now. I don't really know why. My friends know. I just hope that you will let me tell people when I'm ready. I'm gay. Mom knows, and she's okay with it. Please, talk to me. Tell me you are okay with me being gay. I can't change, even if I wanted to, so fighting with me about it isn't going to accomplish anything good. I doubt you'd fight me anyways, though. The worst case scenario keeps playing in my head, so please, assure me that I don't need to worry.
    Richie
     
  2. Given To Fly

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    Sounds good. Short, and to the point.

    Good luck (*hug*)
     
  3. inthedark4eva

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    I think the letter is perfect.

    I know how nervous you are about coming out to your Dad. I wish you the best of luck and know that no matter what happens....we are here for you.

    (*hug*)
     
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    I'm proud of you for mustering up the courage. We're all here for you if you need us, okay? *hugs*
     
  5. Shiny Espeon

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    Thanks, everyone. I'm so glad I found this community. :slight_smile:
     
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    The letter is great! Not so long but explains the issue with clarity.
    Good luck! You have the support of your friends, your mom, EC (&&&)
     
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    I think it's a good letter. Please update us.
     
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    I don't want to sound pick-ish or anything but .. I think it would be better if you changed the part:

    "I doubt you'd fight me anyways"

    That line alone has a bit of aggressiveness to it and somewhat hostile .. either delete it or maybe change it to something like "I don't think you hate me enough to fight me" or "I know you don't want to fight me" .. just something that doesn't sound like "HA .. ITS ME AGAINST YOU AND YOU CAN'T DO NOTHING" .. because that sounds really bad :slight_smile: .. just saying ...

    Best of luck ...
     
  9. Shiny Espeon

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    Thank you all, again.

    and None, I am going to take your advice. I changed it to "I know you don't want to fight me, though." I looked at it again and agree that it seemed a bit confrontational.
     
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    It's from the heart, and that's when it counts most. <3

    At least you can tell your parents. :slight_smile:
     
  11. Shiny Espeon

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    One last time, thank you everyone for your words of encouragement and advice. I gave him the letter. I posted the story in the Coming Out Stories forum. (Isn't it great that there is a separate forum for that?)