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He confuses me and pisses me off!

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Divopix, Jan 6, 2013.

  1. Divopix

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    My best friend who I've been close with for almost 4 years is really starting to piss me off. I don't "think" he's gay but there have been hints or whatever but that's not really what's pissing me off.

    What is pissing me off is how he brags about every single girl he gets, and he only does it to me. He knows what I've done with people (and it has been a lot more than him) but every small thing he does with a girl, he just has to say it and he'll go on about it for a week.

    He kissed on girl on his vacation and he went on and on and on about how hot she was and how big her boobs were and how she was such a good kisser. He never used to be like this and the way he says things, it's almost like he's trying to make me jealous or out do me, you know?

    It's extremely annoying because now we can't even have a conversation with out him bringing up how he kissed this girl or that girl (all he's done) and when he isn't saying that, he goes on and on about how hot someone is or how (yes, he does this) he masturbated to this really hot chick, and I'm sitting there thinking "I really don't give a fuck".

    Now, of course I wouldn't say that to him because it's very rude, but I just don't get why he does it. Back a few years ago, we always hugged and stuff and talked about "our problems" because we were that close, but now we don't. It isn't like we're drifting apart, it's just that he's changed a lot. I'm not really sure why, what do you all think?

    (I'm not into him or anything, but I was just thinking maybe he could be gay and feels the need to stress his heterosexuality by always going on and on about how hot someone is or maybe he's trying to impress me?)

    Thanks :kiss:
     
  2. Zaio

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    Sounds to me like he's just trying to have a 'bit of banter', it doesn't sound to me like he's trying to make you jealous, he's just happy about what happened and wants to tell his mate.

    You should just tell him that you get that he's happy, but that he doesn't need to tell you the same story over and over. It may not be pleasant, but the only way you're going to get him to shut up is to tell him it's getting annoying.

    All the best.
     
  3. Rexmond

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    Wow I didn't think of it like that... I am literally telling my best friend about all the hot guys I sit next to on the bus or saw in a film or something like that. I never give him any time to talk about what he wants to talk about, though it's usually about Xbox or COD. He's a great best friend, and I don't even realise I take advantage of that. It sounds like how you describe what I'm doing to my friend.

    Honestly I don't think he's doing it purposely to piss you off, even if it may seem like that. He could just be so glad that he has his best friend to talk to about girls, maybe because he can't with other guys? Well not as much as with you. He probably just appreciates the fact that he has someone trusted to talk to.
     
  4. 4AllEternity

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    Well if you're not out to him, maybe he suspects you're gay, and is just trying to test whether you're straight or not/send the message that if you are gay, he's definitely not into you that way. Straight guys especially tend to get really antsy at the idea of a friend being gay, since it makes them question the nature of your relationship, and kind of weirds them out a little (i.e "What if he fantasizes about me?" thoughts like that). The other thing to keep in mind is that a lot of guys like to brag about girls they've "done" in conversations, it's just one of those topics that theoretically all guys can share. I know a lot of guys who are constantly like "Check out that chick, she's so fuckin hot. Look at that ass :O" and definitely mean exactly what they're saying, definitely no innuendo.

    The guys that are trying to cover up being in the closet are usually the ones that make up stories about conquests. If your friend really did kiss that girl, and flirts with girls regularly, chances are he's either just casually engaging in "guy-talk" or is just trying to make it clear he's straight to you.

    I would just continue with the "meh" reaction, and whatever reason he'll probably calm down after a bit.
     
  5. Divopix

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    I make it seem like I'm interested in him or something; I'm not. I've never been the one to hug him or anything, it was always him doing it to me. That's why I brought up the gay side of it. It was almost an instant change from "Hug me!!" to "you're too close to me".

    I've never given him any signs that's I'm into him or anything. Even now he still has a lot of gay tendencies so that's why I brought up the fact that he could be questioning or whatever. With that big change in his personality so quickly and the way he always brings up boobs and sex and porn and all this stuff that my other friends and I don't ever talk about just make me add it to the possibilities. Honestly, he's probably just trying to show off to me.