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"If you didn't know me would you think I was gay?"

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by RainbowPrius, Jan 9, 2013.

  1. RainbowPrius

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    That is the question my friend asked today at lunch and I think it might be a hint because when I was going through "coming to terms with myself" I wanted to ask questions like this, of course I didn't because it might give something away. But I asked him today why he said that and he got rally nervous then said "Oh, it was just something I thought of", but he said it in a nervous way and after that I asked him if there was something he needed to tell me (I said this in a half jokingly way so I wouldn't offend him) but he still acted real shy about it. I would really like him to admit it so I could help him because he has been kind of depressed at times lately and I know how hard this can be, also I think he is really cute :wink: but this could just be my mind playing tricks to me.
     
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    Well that's suspicious! LoL

    It seems like he may be testing the waters...
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    I know! That's what I thought I might interrogate some more lol
     
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    Have you considered coming out to your friend? It may help him come to terms with himself if he knew about you, if he is indeed questioning or gay.
     
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    Lucky! From where I live, no one asks "if I was gay" questions. Have you noticed the people asking "if I was gay" questions are the gay people themselves? This could be a sign, partly because he started getting nervous. Reminds me of the time a guy asked me if I had a girlfriend.
     
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    Whatever you do, don't force it out of him
     
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    Maybe if you tell him that you understand why he is feeling what he is feeling and that you are there for everything that he needs maybe he comes out to you. And in the mid terms you may come out to him too. He will feel more comfortable I think.
     
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    That is so cute. :grin: I wish people would peek out of the closet for me hehe.
     
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    I agree with WorriedWardrobe.

    I would take it easy first. Maybe ask him why he asked such a question. You could possibly tell him how you're gay.
     
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    Maybe turn it around and ask him the same question "if you didn't know me would you think "I" was gay?". If you ask it sincerely, so he doesn't think you are mocking him, it may open the doors to a more in depth conversation.

    It really does sound like he is testing the waters. I think you both are on the verge of coming out to each other. Don't rush or force things. Be patient and see what happens.