Hey everyone, I'm new to this forum thing and a little nervous about this. But I came on this site to get some advice on what I'm thinking in my head. Ever since i could remember, i've been attracted to older guys, like teachers,lecturers and my friends dads.. Lately they have been feeling a lot stronger than ever before. At college all I could think of is my lecturer who is 40 years older than me he was attractive and such a decent guy, we got on so well. Until a few things happened in college and he was forced to retire the year i graduated.. but after that we've kept in touch. But I think I should tell him im gay, he would be the first person who I would speak to about this face to face. I want to tell him cause I trust him and I'm not to sure what my family would react like to the whole thing. But im not sure in my head and ive had experiences with some guys the youngest being in 50's and i know im right, im not attracted to girls in a sexual way. just in a " you look good in that dress" way. But id like advice on people who is out and how they got round telling people like a friend or close friend.... Sorry for the rambling im just not to sure how to put it. Thanks for reading this xxxx
Welcome to the forum! I think everyone has a "type" that they find attractive, and that seems like a pretty normal attraction (whatever "normal" is). You aren't alone, as I've always been attracted to men older than me, especially when I was younger. Now that I'm 50, the guys I find attractive are closer in age, but still prefer alder than me.
Thanks for the welcome. im glad im not alone in this , just Im real shy with things like this and Ive not spoken to anyone about it