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I met a guy, he asked for my #, and?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by PeteNJ, Jan 11, 2013.

  1. PeteNJ

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    Ok -- so help me navigate in the gay world. :icon_bigg

    In the hetero world, heck, if I exchanged #'s with a girl -- and we met -- it would be a date, right?

    Met a another gay guy, very good looking. I approached him, we talked, he asked for my number said we'd get together.

    By the time I got home, I'm thinking -- WHOA -- are we getting together as friends, or are we getting together for something more.

    Next morning, while I'm thinking about this, he texts me -- lets get together. First its coffee. Then its lunch. (and yes, its next week)

    He says we have a lot of common, I tell him I feel the same way.

    Now we're also seeing each other at a gay event this weekend.

    How do I know -- just friends or more? (and more would be very cool)
     
  2. Gen

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    It seems as though there is some interest there on his part. Personally, I would just go with it. If you guys become friends, great. If you become something more, wonderful.

    I would say that the only difference between Hetero and same sex relationships/dating is that there isnt as much of an expectation on either, to have to bend over backwards for the other. You dont have to jump into anything so soon. Hang out and get to know one another a bit before jumping into dating and relationships.
     
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    That sounds like a great guy to me. He texted you to hang out and talk, and not just hook up. I'd say that going to get coffee, eating lunch together, aka hanging out is kind of like a date. I mean, a date is set at a time and place to learn more about each other. I'd say they're dates. Good luck!
     
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    Don't assume too fast. Maybe he is just enjoying your company, who knows, it may lead to something special.
     
  5. luvlontime

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    I am amazed to see you asking for advice since you give such great advice! I think you have already overcome the biggest hurdle here...meeting someone. Wish I was as outgoing as you to even meet someone. Hell I don't even have the nerves to go to a LGBT meeting/support group!

    I digress.

    You should not even worry about how it goes. You will be fine. By him asking for your #, you know there is interest already. Just go, enjoy yourself, and see where it goes from there.

    Keep us up to date!!
     
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    There's always the possibility of asking him if it's a date or not. :slight_smile: