Soo my identical twin brother just came out to me. He's actually 90/10 but whatever. Anyway so I found out like a month after him but came out a year before. The problem is that the 10 part made him doubt it for a really long time. I'm recently converted Atheist but he's Christian and he said that God didn't make him gay. I'm worried for him of course but I don't know what to do. :-(.
I am a Christian and proud of it, and I bet I know how he feels. You don't need to DO anything, just be a great brother, and let him work it out. PS. If he is sometimes attracted to a female, he could be on the kinsey scale a bit closer to bisexual than you, is that a problem for you more than him because it sounds like you are not thrilled about that yourself? Have you heard of gene-expression? A person can be genetically same and express a gene differently, maybe there is a gay gene after all...but he is NOT you...even though you are twins, he may not be as gay. You are okay with it if he happens in the future to fall in love with a woman and marry?
I don't have a problem with Christians, sorry if I have that impression. He says that he'd rather be gay than bi because he'd be able to accept it easier. I personally have no problem with it. I'd be fine if he got married.
I don't really understand why he would stress so much over "10%," which I assume is the "straight" part. It sounds like he's much more than likely gay as opposed to bi. If he only has a 10% attraction to women, I don't feel that it's hardly worth mentioning, much less worrying about. Anyway, all you can do is try to support him and reassure him that it's perfectly fine to be gay. God doesn't have a problem with it.
theres not much you can really do i mean its his life. all you can really do is just be there for him when he needs you. and you're gay too, so you know how difficult some situations can be. but really all you can do is point in the direction, let him go, and support him.
He js off to lesbian porn on occasion so. On your other point he knows God loves everybody for who they are(including gays) but he feels unlike other gay people that he was 'created' straight and that his soul is resisting being gay. He realises that this makes him sound like a closet case and religious zelot.
I am a very devout christian and was even in ministry for several years so I totally know what he is going through. This video answered so many questions I had and helped me finally accept myself. I would recommend your brother watch this. Matthew Vines The Bible and Sexuality: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ezQjNJUSraY
It's very possible that in his mind he's 90/10, but in reality, he's holding onto that 10% because of his religious beliefs and not wanting to completely close the door on his straight side (basically, bargaining.) That being the case... likely if he just gives it time, he'll get more comfortable with his gay side and it will be less of an issue.
this is the first time I've heard of gay twins, it's an intereesting argument for the where homosexuality comes from debate being that you are identical twins so you are effected by the same genetics and the same enviroment (sorry btw I believe it's nature's doing not nurture) let him work it out for himself there doesn't seem like anything to worry about unless you think he is blaming you
He isn't I'm just worried because I handled it so much better than he did. He's coming out to my mom tonight (hopefully). She was really good with me so well see how it goes.
It should to well too unless he picks a bad time she has accepted 1 gay son so being told a second time cant be as shocking can it? I dont know how a parent feels Im.about at maternal as a pea
