why does he want me to get a boyfriend so bad?

"Dad, I appreciate you trying to help, but I'm not sure you understand. It's not like I'm always equally attracted to both genders at all times. Sometimes I feel more attuned to guys, and other times I'm more attuned to women. Right now, I'm favoring women. That's just how it's going right now. I'm not getting a boyfriend right now because it just doesn't appeal to me right now. Maybe it will at some point down the road, and if it does, trust me - you'll be the first to know."

Lex

 

Just tell him you don't want a boyfriend right now. Back when I thought I was straight and people said things like that to me, that's just what I'd always say. Or if I'm around someone who doesn't know about me.

 

It could be that he's not comfortable about you liking girls, so he's trying to get you to focus on the hetero side of your bisexuality? (if that makes sense)
Just give him time, he will eventually realise that you have no interest at the moment and he just has to accept it.

 

I know it's frustrating but just try to remember that he is doing what he thinks is best about you. My mom has been trying to get me to date one of my best friends for ages. She doesn't know for sure that I like girls but she suspects (it's kind of obvious). Anyway, THey just want the best possible life for you and this is how they think it will happen. So, yeah, if it bothers you, say something to him about it but just try to be as understanding about his point of view as you would want him to be about yours

 

How about you tell him the truth, that you don't want a boyfriend, but a girlfriend...eventually. Your feelings seem to have been very consistent over the past year and a half, even though I know you're still questioning. Just tell him that you're not interested in boys at the moment, but girls instead

 

My parents are the same, but the other way around. I told them I was bi half a year-ish ago. Since I broke up with my then bf, my parents must have thought 'OH MAYBE HE'S STRAIGHT AFTER ALL!!!!!' and the second I told them we had broken up, they asked 'oh but have you met a girl maybe?' And they keep asking things like, 'Is that your girlfriend?' 'Are you seeing a girl?' 'When are you bringing home a girl?'

Well have I got news for them...

But the thing is, it's got to do with understanding and acceptance... and you're just going to have to be very clear to your father, in hopes he'll come to accept it. There really isn't much more to it.

 

After I finally got my mother to believe I am pansexual (not yet told her about the genderqueer-ness) she started trying to get me to date every man I meet. (Ironically, the last one she seemed to really want me to date was a transman- unknown to her- and my mother considers transgender people to be of their birth gender. heh)
I think your father, like my mother, is doing what he is doing mainly because he cares for you. Let's be honest, it would be easier to be in a heterosexual relationship if you can be attracted to the opposite sex. No one would ever yell a homophobic slur at you for holding your boyfriend's hand in public. You could get married in any state. I don't know him, so it may be his own hangs ups, but I am sure he wants what is best for you. When my mother hassles me about dating, I try to think of it in a positive light. At least they care, right? heh
(also, maybe bring up to him that you are only 16. You do not NEED to date anyone, really. It's not like time is running out or anything. o___O)

 

It sounds to me like he's pushing you to get a boyfriend cause he's scared that you're really gay, or more interesting in girls than guys. Maybe reassure him that you're attracted to both sexes and you don't need to go out with a guy to prove it, tell him you'll date who you want, tell him how he's making you feel when he asks you to get a boyfriend

 

Take him to PFLAG. Get other parents of LGBT people to talk to him. This will be helpful to both of you. Keep talking about PFLAG until he takes you to a meeting. Mention it every time he mentions that you should get a boyfriend.

You could also mention to him that questioning teens have a higher rate of sexual experimentation and teen pregnancy, and that he really shouldn't be pushing you towards "trying it out" with boys.

 

I think THIS might just do it, how about it Flyalone45?