How are you supposed to come out if no one takes you seriously?

Tell her seriously, alone, when there are no other people there. It doesn't seem like she will have a problem with it.

I'll move the thread for you.

 

^agreed. I had this happen with a friend and I literally had to take a photo of a crush and say " hey, what do you think about this guy?", and that settled that one

 

If they dont take you seroiusly, just kiss a random girl for a very long time!

 

Hi,

You have learned a valuable lesson...

Jokesters are often not taken seriously.

How much attention does the court jester get and would you heed their financial advice?

This life lesson applies far beyond your sexual preference.

Stuck

 

Wolf! Wolf!

Is anybody running to the rescue??

Ooopsy!

Well, if you stop playing wolf and just do other humor that does not entail fabrications, maybe next time you say something serious they will know the difference.

Let's just hope the person you ask out does not crack up laughing and say "good one!"

 

Have you pondered why you use humor to the point people disregard what you say?

Many people use humor to avoid the stress of being honest;

Hence;

Some feel that making truth into a joke they can relieve themselves of the burden truth carries.

Similarly those making a lie are avoiding the burden of truth.

You may want to ponder what makes you joke so much people ignore your words.

This goes beyond sexual preference.

Stuck

---------- Post added 18th Jan 2013 at 06:44 AM ----------

Hi,

If you want practical advice...

As suggested above sit down with your mother at a time when you will not be disturbed. Tell her you are concerned about your future because nobody takes your words or feelings seriously and then cite your sexual preference as an example.

Take the blame upon yourself for making everything into a joke and then ASK for her help in learning how to get people to listen, really listen to you.

Make NO jokes during this dialog.

It should get your mother's attention. If anybody knows how your comedic life approach is eroding your ability to be believed your mother will.

Best of luck.

Stuck

 

Oh man I relate to this. This was one of the most difficult things for me psychologically (but easy to solve), the only time I ever remember losing my cool over coming out. Luckily, my family is the best so I really never had to worry about them. I didn't tell my friends and coworkers for like...6 months after I told my family.

After all that time of suspense and buildup and me finally gaining the courage to tell friends/workmates...there were a few people I worked with that didn't believe me. They would say things like "Oh I heard you *came out* (most sarcastic tone ever) to Jenn yesterday...glad you're finding your *new self* AHAHAHAHAHA" next day... "How many bros did you get with last night?" ...etc. 100% sarcastic, totally thinking I was pulling a stunt. It made me so upset. All these years of holding in this secret, all this anxiety expended and now FINALLY I'm ready to accept it, and tell them, and move on, and these f***ers won't let me!! They've blocked my closet door!

Good thing is it was relatively easy (for me) to overcome. The thing that broke it for me was simply when I kinda half-snapped at them and said pretty sternly, "You know I really just don't understand why this is so damn hard to believe." Maybe a few additional descriptive lines but that's the gist of it. I'm really even keeled and rarely get angry. Spent the rest of that work shift perturbed and quiet and from then on, that was that. Nothing but respect and support afterward. Hopefully this will turn out to be as minor an issue for you as it was for me. Good luck!