Hello all. I am Bobby as of now I would be considered bi! But for the last year or so I been living on the gay side. Other words I prefer males over females. I am not even interested in females any more. So here is the question. I would like start or have a gay relationship but just don't know how to start. Do go to gay bars, gay web dating sites or just give it time to actually meet some guy by chance! Any advice?
Hello, Have you ever had a long term relationship before? Use the same guidelines that were successful for long term relationships for you in the past. People are people regardless of preference. There are all sorts of gay groups and activities that do not involve bars; gay churches, gay sports leauges, gay hiking clubs (etc, etc). In my opinion these are better choices for long term goals. Stuck
Interested in issue of supposed "temporary" status Of bisexuals. Invisibility results. Bi could be a phase, in fact I imagine its very often a phase before out and out gayness. Is could also not be a phase. I suppose because it perhaps was for you doesn't mean it is for me. I'm NOT being critical! You just reminded me of some issues.
I would not suggest looking at bars or clubs to find a relationship. In general, those are meat markets and most of the people there either don't want, or can't sustain relationships. You're much more likely to find someone if you look in a place or activity based on common interests. If you're in a reasonably sized town, you can usually find hiking clubs, book clubs, potluck groups, and all sorts of other activities for gay men. If there's an LGBT community center in your area, that's another great place to look. I also generally don't recommend dating or hookup sites for the same reasons, but there are a couple that are pretty good. We can't mention names of them on the public forum but if you message me I can provide you the info.
Hello, and welcome to EC! I couldn't help but notice that your name begins with Bama. Are you from AL? (If I may ask.)
I have to agree with Chip. You're better off getting involved in some community activities. Keep in mind that you will not only meet people at the activity itself, but you will also eventually meet people through the people you meet there. What sorts of things are you interested in?
Two main options: dating sites, or "go where the gays are". That might mean gay social groups, or even just going to the "gay section of town" and going into shops and whatnot. Clubs are pretty much confined to the 30-and-under crowd, but if you think you can pull it off, go for it. Lex
Hello Bobby - lot of guys our age who are figuring out to find sex, love, relationships. To navigate the gay world I've started to go to several gay mens support groups and get active in our local pride center. Right now I'm really happy to be making gay friends. Relationships and sex to follow, I'm Sure Welcome and keep posting Pete
