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dreams about girls

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by johnjorgell, Jan 23, 2013.

  1. johnjorgell

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    Hi I've been having dreams about a girl I think she's very amazing but I may be gay but I have dreams about her sometimes sexual if im gay why the dreams
     
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    Often, sexual dreams are a way of experimenting freely without any hang ups, but if it was with a girl you knew... do you perhaps feel something for her? There wouldn't be anything wrong with that. Or perhaps you wish to incorporate more feminine aspects within yourself. :icon_bigg
     
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    Thank you for your insight. Anyone else please
     
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    It could just be a dream that doesn't really mean anything or, as myheartincheck said, a way to mentally experiment. Maybe you just admire her in a platonic way.

    But if you find yourself enjoying the dream and dreams like it (being sexual with girls), it might mean something more. I had dreams about girls for about a year and a half and then I realized that I was enjoying them even as I thought about them in waking life...and now I think I like girls. :slight_smile:
     
  5. cm81990

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    Do you ever fantasize about girls in real life? When you see them in public, do you feel aroused or turned on? Does this specific girl turn you on in real life? Those are the most important questions to answer regarding sexuality. Many people will have dreams about murdering other people, but don't actually have any inclination to do that in reality. If you're gay, you wouldn't be experiencing sexual thoughts or desires for girls during your waking hours.
     
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    It's really hard to tell what dreams mean. It all comes from the subconscious. It could be literal, or what do you, look like and see around and how the people and objects in the dream look, act and speak could have other meanings. Think about what you remember and what things mean to you and what you associate them with.
     
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    No arousal I've been having ED due to porn addiction recovery. But when I see her I feel something in my stomach and I feel happy but hopeless like she's too good for me.

    ---------- Post added 26th Jan 2013 at 02:35 PM ----------

    And I feel very bad telling a girl ive dine stuff with a guy in the past.
     
  8. cm81990

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    Maybe you like her as a close friend? Even with ED problems from porn addiction, you will still be able to be "turned on." You may not get "hard" due to the ED, but can still have sexual feelings.
     
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    Yes I do have sexual feelings, feelings like I would do sexual stuff with her
     
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    Then you're probably bisexual - nothing wrong with that :slight_smile: Just as there's nothing wrong with being gay/lesbian/transgender/genderfluid/pansexual/etc. :slight_smile:

    Don't worry too much about it though - just go with the flow :slight_smile: If you should come along a girl you like -> good for you, if you should come along a guy you like -> good for you as well :slight_smile: You don't need to put a label on yourself if you don't want to and you should be honest with yourself and don't let a label restrict you in who you're attracted to.
    Just relax and see where life takes you (*hug*)