I want to come out but is there a right time? Does anyone have any advice? I want to tell my best mate but there are so many what if questions it's so scary? Any one got any advice? Thanks!
Hi, The right time is when you are comfortable. That is the only time something like this makes sense. A big issue is over thinking it. Stuck
Hi, You just don't know how suffocating the closet will be in time. Sooner or later the pain of the closet will exceed your fear. If you work at it now you can make it easier for yourself. Believe me, you do not want to wait 20 years before engaging your happiness. Stuck
I think you will know when the time is right. Do not rush if you are not comfortable. Don't pressure yourself into doing something you don't need to do at the moment. Coming out can be difficult and some make it even more so by over thinking it. Hugs and good luck
It's kind of hard, but when you finally tell at least ONE person in your life, you'll see how great it is, it's the best feeling. Your BEST mate probably won't matter at all. But before you just spill that out, make sure you are ready to come out, and you are comfortable with yourself. If it's not now, then you'll see how you'll WANT to come out.
Yes, they do deserve to know, but everyone has their own time to come out. You don't wanna do it because of them. Do it for youself. I'm not out for my family, and I feel so bad about that, but I don't know how they'll take it, and I'm not ready to come out to them, but eventually I'll do it, it's just not the time.
I'm out to my friends and when I meet new people I always tell them. It's only scary when nobody knows, because then you'll be like "omg, are they going to accept me?". Although with my friends I wasn't THAT scared, because 3/4 of my guy friends are gays, but the girls aren't, so that's why I was kinda scared, but once they found out, they couldn't care less.
That's good I don't think I'll be accepted where I'm from especially as its so small aswell so it's petrifying but in happy to hear you're excepted
Hi, I know this is going to be irritating... Keep in mind your age, and inexperience. How many years of autonomous adult living do you have under your belt? When you look at a 16 year old now is how you will look back on your current age. Experience keeps driving maturity forward. It does not stop at 20, 30, 40 or even 50. When I look back on my early 20's I wonder "God, how did I survive! I was so naive!". I would not want to be 20 again unless I could take all my experience and maturity with me. No offence intended that is just how I see it. In 7 years you will look back and shake your head. Honest, Stuck
But not even your friend? I mean... friends tend to be very accepting. Why don't you talk about something like "hey, what do you think about gay people?". Just so you know their reaction. If they are fine with it, then it'll be all good, and you just can prepare something to say or just be like "yeah... I like girls". But seriously, first you need to be comfortable with yourself, and accept who you are. You can't come out to people if you still think it's a phase, or something like that, you know?
Nobody can give you those years of experience or maturity, you gotta live them. Life is a great teacher. It's a self paced, self study course.
I get where your coming from about inexperience but its so frustrating when you see your mates holding hands with there bf and gfs and you want that and my mates are always making gay jokes. I have a few gay mates and they're getting so much stick they just pretend its not there and it's just like this rule we don't mention it now
No one deserves to know until you are ready to let them know. In a perfect world it would make no difference. We are not in a perfect world and people do not always take kindly to LGBTQ sharing from someone they love or care about. This happens for a thousand different reasons. You may feel guilty not saying anything or lying. The important part is that you are in your comfort zone when you break the news. You need to be in a place where you want to share. You do not come out because you think they need to know. That is the worst time because you pressure yourself. Lose the guilt and do this when you are ready and not a second before. Hugs dear.
I have gay friends but if I tell them and we argue it'll get thrown back in my face in spite. I'd hate for people i am close to too hear it from someone other than me and thanks for the advice it's just I fell guilty you know? About how I'm lying to everyone and when they ask me about my 'love' life and that but thanks for the advice I think I'm going to wait. There's so much to lose for this and I just need to figure out will it be worth it
